Acknowledging my feelings towards former toxic friends
I have been facing some feelings of hurt and anger towards some former friends of mine who turned out to be fake. For the last three years, this mother and daughter have been nasty towards me even though they have convinced me that they love me like family. Therefore, I had been feeling resentful and anger towards them until I finally acknowledged my feelings towards them and talked about how I felt with a friend and a listener.
How, I feel: Anger and hurt towards them because they
A. Betrayed me and my trust with them
B. They constantly talk trash about me to my other friends and do what they can to make me look bad. One of them comes forward and lies about me all the time.
C. Even though another friend and I have confronted them, they refuse to own up to how mean they are being. Instead, all they want to do is shift the blame on me. "You're the one with the problem":
@Summershy I'm sorry you're going through this :(. I've had awful friend drama three-two years ago and it was so awful i lost my childhood best friend bc of it. and now i am lonely. I kind of understand the struggle, the shesaidIsaid stuff. It's exhausting!
Just know there are people out there who'll I hope you will find who support you and love you the way you want. Time is key <3. I hope we both find the people that understand us.
I wish you luck, I know the struggle of toxic friends.
@AliWriter
Hi:
Thank you for understanding and I have been hurt about the way they have treated me for a while. Some examples and though it had been going for a while, it got worse at the end of 2018
- My aunt was lying in the hospital dying after suffering two massive strokes and the daughter, who has mild autism and not only has not filter but is extremely disrespectful towards others. When we were talking, I mentioned getting together for her birthday, she said she was busy meeting some friends who I didn't know and didn't want to introduce me because I talk too much. When I got upset, she basically started gaslighting me. "I was being nice to you," so I cut it off,
- Then six months later, while at a party, they were both at a party and tried to sweep their crap under the rug. They also didn't seem to care that I lost my aunt. Rather, everything was about them.
- Then when I had a get together with alcohol, the autistic daughter told a friend of mine, who had a little too much to drink right in front of me while we were on the phone. "Don't hang out with her, she's a bad influence." I lost my temper and started swearing at her only to be told I belong in a straight jacket.
@Summershy Oh my gosh, that's so mean!! I hope your relationship goes well with everything! Sending positive vibes!! Whoosh. :)
<3
@AliWriter
This autistic woman has a history of being mean to me and openly so but always doing things like
- Putting me down
- She blurts out nasty things to me
- She is plain rude
Whereas as her mom is a covert narcissist who is mean to me in a much sneakier way
- She seems to compare me to the things that she and her daughter like to do and not do
- She puts on a front
- She's self-centered
- She's a drama queen
