Bro when i get left on open

@lavenderPal1002

I hear u Pal, it can be very confusing for u. He's taking his space and u think of the same ., and it sounds a good idea. Also if there's any misunderstanding or miscommunication , i hope it gets sorted out when u guys meet each other and talk it out as u have been friends for a longtime . Best wishes !

Hi @lavenderPal1002

I can totally relate to you. I feel bad when someone leaves without saying bye or other messages in both real lives and even on social media.

Friends are there for each other and sometimes it's natural that we like to need that support. If you like to vent papaya can you ask him if he is okay with that? That kinda heads up will help I think.

Communication is key. I hope you tell him how you're feeling and ask him about their thoughts as well to avoid confusion. Hope you have a great time ❤️

if he responds to u confront him and ask him why he leaves u on opened. i advise u to be assertive but if ur not comfortable with that its ok. make sure u tell him how being left on opened makes u feel. if he responds negatively dont talk to him again

Hey everyone so it’s been a few months so I feel like i should update u on the situation.

so basically we saw each other irl after he left me on open for a few weeks and he just acted normal. We didn’t really have a chance to talk bc there were always other ppl around but ya he was just acting like nothing happened so maybe i guess that means it didn’t mean as much to him talking to me as it did for me talking to him. So i unadded him on snap bc whenever id go on snap id see he left me on open and it would make me sad.

so a few weeks later we see each other and he just asks me how im doing. I say im good. And he says that’s good bc i feel like u dont tell me about ur life anymore. And then someone else came over to us so we dropped the convo.

this is what confuses me bc he seemed kinda sad that i dont talk to him anymore but in my head i was like BRO WE DONT TALK MUCH ANYMORE BC U LEFT ME ON OPEN TWICE!! And this dude is always on his phone so i keep thinking that if he was really curious on how i was doing he could just askkk!!

BUT OKAY,, so this dude coaches my little sister and he thinks it’s funny to tell her that we’re dating. So for the next month or so he just tells my sister things like, ‘oh ur sister and i are totally dating’, ‘she comes to my place all the time and we makeout’ and other stuff like that. Let me remind u that we haven’t even had a full conversation since he ghosted me. So he knows that my sister talks a lot and if he says this to her, my sister will tell me.

im gonna be honest i think he was mainly just saying that stuff bc he liked when my sister would get ‘mad’ at him for saying stuff like that. And my sister once said that he had asked her if i had a boyfriend.

so im thinking maybe he thinks I stopped talking to him bc i have a bf? But idk like he’s literally the one who ghosted me 🤷‍♀️

Oh i also want to add that it’s possible my sister made all this up but ngl my sister is 10 and i dont think she’s capable of making stuff like this up.

During all this happening i would occasionally go on snap and see him on my quick add and it would say ‘add back’ so that means he hasn’t unadded me. But ig it also means he hasn’t even noticed i unadded him all those weeks ago:// and i keep thinking like if this guy actually cared he’d just trxt or snap or talk to me irl.

So about 3 weeks ago I decided that what he’s been saying to my sister was getting weird and since we dont see each other irl that much anymore I decided to text him.

i said something along the lines of

’I don’t know how much of what my sister has been saying is true, but could you please stop telling her that we’re ‘dating’. My parents are low key convinced I spend the weekends with you and they are not happy. They are seriously really close to contacting the head coaches because you’re being ‘inappropriate’’

oh also my parents started thinking him and i we’re dating just bc of how often he’d tell my sister.

So i wait for his response. And he never answers. Like did what i say sound like I didn’t want a response back?? Like honestly wtfff

And one of my friends who sees him more on the regular decides to ask him, ‘so i heard youve been ghosting [my name]’. And she told me he just got a little awkward and then someone went up to them so they dropped the convo.

So about a week after i send him the message we see each other irl and it’s still been awhile since we’ve actually spoken. So i go up to him and tell him to please stop saying that stuff to my sister. And he’s silent for a moment. Then he says, ‘you know what the last thing i talked to ur sister about?’ And i say ‘what’. And he says ‘i was just telling her about how we dont talk much anymore’ and he said this in kinda a sad way. And then im silent for a moment and idrk what to say back to that so i just say, ‘oh, well just please don’t mention me to my sister anymore bc i think she’s getting the wrong idea’. Then someone comes up to us so the conversation is dropped even tho i really wanted to discuss ’us’ more.

So now it’s last week, and we see each other again and it is so awkward. Like this dude doesn’t make eye contact with me or even try to be friendly. And im like what the actual f.uck. I thought things were maybe starting to get better for us but i guess i was wrong.

i really want to reach out and talk to him about it but honestly i just keep thinking like if this guy really wanted to talk he knows how to reach me. And especially since i feel like ive been doing most of the work i feel like he should put some more effort in if he even wants us to be friends.

anyways tyyy so much for reading all that. Please give me all ur honest opinions about everything! Even if u think im in the wrong and stuff. I just want to figure out what the heck is even happening and what’s going through this guys head