Feelings sprouting for another..
I dont really have anyone in my life to turn to about this situation I am in. A part of me feels like maybe Im just confused about my feelings, but another part cant stop obsessing... help!
I have been married for about two and a half years and with him for almost seven. He is my best friend and I truly love him, but lately it feels like we arent on the same level. It feels like Im growing and progressing while he is still the same person as when we got together. He does have an alcohol problem, but it only happens a couple times a month where is gets really bad.
My problem begins with our mutual friend, who we have both known for years. My husband and him, lets call him K, have been friends for a long time and just recently became close due to becoming coworkers and living next to each other. I would consider K my friend, too.
Recently, I have been thinking about K in a more sexual way... I like when he comes around to see my husband so we can hang out together. We tease each other and sometimes I feel like its on the border of flirting. Last night, I had my first dream about him, and it was pretty hot. I cant stop thinking about it.
Is this normal to want attention from someone else right when my marriage is rocky? Should I say anything to my husband or K about this situation, or keep it to myself? Will these feelings go away? I love my husband and would never cheat on him, especially not with his good friend. But I cant shake these feelings for him.
@sunnyBeing3193
Is understandable why it happens but shouldn't be something natural. if you're in a mono relationship and you promised loyalty to your husband then is what you should give.
Now I recommend you to obviously not flirt with the other guy. Is considering cheating and won't do any good for you or your relationship.
Just work on communicating better with your partner and adress how his problem affects you. Tell him how its making you feel and try to think of solutions for his problems and ways you can support him.
In the end if you still feel unhappy and you don't see a solution, then it might be time to sepperate. Is always better to be alone than cheating on someone.