How to get over romantic feelings for a friend
2 years ago I met someone who I instantly connected with and grew romantic feelings towards them pretty quickly. And just as quickly I was shot down by them and told that we were just going to be a friendship. Since then it’s been a up and down battle with my emotions and feelings towards them. But through it all we’ve continued to be good friends and have told each other on multiple occasions how much we mean to each other. As of recent though my feelings for them have become increasingly tough to hold back and bury/get rid of and I just don’t know what to do. I feel like if I was to tell them (even 2 years later) that I still have romantic feelings for them, things would not turn out that good. I absolutely do not want to risk the chance of ruining our friendship. And I also do not want to just straight up end our friendship simply because I know we won’t be together romantically. But I have to figure out something to get these thoughts off my mind. I just don’t know what to do cause in the end, no matter what, my mind always turns back to them.
@sensibleApple9556
That's tough one. I can relate. I've also had feelings for a... well not a friend that close like you and your friend are, but still, someone I had a friendship with. The difference is that I never told him. Now we haven't talked in a while. I needed some distance from him cause I felt he doesn't care as much as I do.
I don't have any advice for you. If it's hard for you to be around him, take a break. Focus on other things and other people in your life, focus on yourself.
Thank you for your comment. I am very much in that same realm of feeling like she doesn’t care about me as much as I care about her. It’s not that difficult to be around them considering we live about an hour & half from each other and only meet like once or twice a year in person because of that and other life related issues. But the communication between us through text and stuff just isn’t as much as I may like. But again it’s like I still love them and my feelings for them in that way just can’t seem to subside no matter what I try to do. I can’t go like an hour without thinking about them at least once. But anyways again I appreciate your comment a lot even if you weren’t able to give a lot of advice on it.
@sensibleApple9556 maybe try distancing yourself for a while put boundaries up and see what happens good luck😎