I don't feel like I have any true friends
Hi, I just joined this app mostly because I've been feeling really depressed and lonely lately.
I guess I have a few friends but most are either too caught up in their own lives or just aren't that close to me, so I don't feel like I really have anyone I can reliably talk to or trust.
I also feel like I have a certain degree of social anxiety because it always feels like it takes an immense amount of effort to try anything new or take any risks with people and I always seize up and just do nothing and then those people end up drifting away when I do nothing. This keeps happening over and over and I know why but I always get stuck with what to do when it comes to specific people (since everyone is different) and then don't have the tenacity to act upon it anyway.
So as a result I just don't really have anyone I can trust about this stuff or anyone who can genuinely make me feel better. Idk what to expect from this app (since I'm new) but here goes nothing.
@InfinityScape Hi! I'm new too and I joined for it seems for some the same reasons as you. I've been having a really hard time in the friend department lately too.
I moved off to college a few months ago, which is supposed to be a time of meeting new people and making life long friends. But I really don't feel like I'm making friends. I talk to some of my classmates and I love my roommate, but that's about it. I go to events on campus when I can, but I spend so much of my time studying or feeling too overwhelmed to get out of bed that I just feel like I'm not doing this college thing right. It's not helped by the fact that I've been having some turmoil with my previous friends ever since the pandemic started. All of my high school friendships have either gone silent or become one way where I only talk to them if I message first.
I feel like I don't have anyone to talk to about this or about any of the other things that I'm feeling and struggling with right now and it seems you feel the same way. I also don't know what I'm expecting from this site (although I think the plot of "You've Got Mail" is off the table), but I hope I can help you with some advice that may help myself too somehow.
The only group of friends that I've ever really felt I belonged in was through a student organization I was involved with in high school (and still am as an alumna). So, maybe what you need to ease you into social situations and find a place of belonging where you could develop friends is a group of people with similar interests? If you're in school, explore your campus's student organizations. Maybe try to find some facebook groups where you can just practice feeling connection and talking to people so it feels more natural. It hard to find many other groups based on interest now outside of those, but I'm sure there's something we can find for you.
I'm definitely not great with all of this and I'm struggling myself, but I hope I can help. I'm here if you need me, I'd love have someone to talk to too.
I feel like I have the exact same issues in some areas. Where it is like, you know you aren't actually alone I guess? But you couldn't feel more alone if you tried. Like the friends I do have are nice and they care to a degree but they are SO caught up in their own loves and their own situations that 9 times out out 10 I am just waiting for a text or notification and it consumes my life. I feel like that results In like, no one to confide in. I also completely understand abkut the social anxiety and not being able to do certain things and feeling people pull away when that happens. I wish I had answers but I have been struggling myself with it honestly. I'm here to talk or chat if you need to, and I hope things get easier. They have to. Storms don't last forever, and bad feelings pass, just know although your own experocme is unique you're never really alone.
I am in the same boat lol. Maybe we can become friends🤍
