I don't understand her
For about a week, I briefly reconnected with a former friend on the social media platform TT after 10 years of speaking. Though we decided to follow each other, the weird thing is that even after a decade, she didn't really seem like she wanted to reach out, other than liking one video and viewing my page. When I made some comments on some of her videos, she didn't bother to acknowledge any of them. In the meantime, I didn't feel right about following her page or having any other contact with her.
In the past, she made it sound like she was my best friend but never lived up to the title. While she made time for me in the beginning, everyone and everything else was always the higher priority. She had also made several promises. She expected me to be a pushover who would be willing to put up with her by manipulating me. For instance, she would yell and guilt trip me whenever I would confront her. "I have problems and if you can't understand that then the friendship is over."
Yet, she gets very upset and hurt whenever I see that she's not interested and move on again. S
@Summershy Hi, I'm Eric from California. I guess this guy doesn't really want to get along with you, and she does not deserve your time. If she just keeps doing that, I guess it would be better just not getting along with her anymore.
@EricWu
What I don’t get is that she seems to make it seem like she wants to re-connect. Yet , she doesn’t ever seem to make time for me.I also don’t get why she freaks out when I decide that she’s not the effort.
As for her not getting along with me, this woman has a history of not wanting to get along with other people. If she isn’t interested in someone, the rules of being polite don’t seem to apply to her. If they even say hi to her then she has an outburst.
@Summershy,
you seem to have expectations that she can't and/or doesn't want to meet.
So let yourself be by letting her be.
@dukeofdearham
I also have expectations that because we haven’t spoken in years that we should try and catch up.
@Summershy,
well, she might not be on the same page and you simply can't make her meet your expectations.
@dukeofdearham
Well I I think you are right about that part.
Reading this breaks my heart.
Seems clear to me, at least, that she seems to be toying with you and stringing you along at her pleasure. As hard as it is to do this, have you tried just accepting who she is and what she is actually doing and neither is wholesome for you, and realizing that, just letting her go?
Whichever direction and or choice you make, I wish you the best and a conclusion that you might move forward from...
@CharlieDont37
Yes, I did accept this is how she is. I have also decided to let her go