I haven’t had a friend since I’ve been with my wife.
My wife has never let me have friends without her constantly saying that I wanna sleep with them or I wanna date them, and that has lead me to not have friends for over two years. We have a lot of problems going on right now, and divorce is on the table. I just would like to be able to talk to someone.
@Rissram13,
sorry to hear that.
Great that you reach out, it is not always easy to talk about situations like yours.
I don't know ecxactly what is going on, but have you guys ever considered marriage/couples counseling? It might be too late to save your marriage (and counseling is not by definition focused on saving marriages/relationships), it might help though to improve communication.
Have a talk with your wife, express your feelings without blaming, if she starts blaming, don't act on that. Propose counseling to her, in order to at least be able to communicate to each other in a better way.
Thank you for your advice. I have proposed counseling for us separately and together, but she won’t talk to me about that option. She had one conversation with a friend, and now she just wants to divorce. I’m stuck with nowhere to go. I won’t be able to see my daughter. There’s just a lot to think about, and I have no idea where to begin.
@Rissram13,
it's not up to her whether you can see your daughter or not.
Don't listen to her.
Here's a link that might help:
https://www.thehotline.org/get-help/
Will she let you have male friends? The problem seems to be with you having female friends. Most married men don’t have female friends. They talk to their wives or their male friends and they maintain a boundary when it comes to other women. After all, every affair started as a friendship. It seems wise to respect your wife’s wishes. As her husband and friend, you do want her to feel a connection to you that no one else feels. It’s her place of honor.