Relationship to friendship
I just had a break up with my bf for some issue. It was an unhappy short relationship so we decided to be on our own. Right now I am having the thought if we both should continue being friends because we started off our relationship by being a good friends first.
Long story short I am too afraid if I will have hope to again become his girlfriend but also I feel like I want to be his friend eventhough he has this negative energy for certain stuffs. Hope you guys can help !
Hey @independentcat, I like your username, and nice to meet you.
Breakups can be so hard despite ending on a mutual note, however I'd like to commend y'all for thinking things through and taking time away from the unhappiness and working on yourselves. ❤
I hear you're feeling confused if you'd like to continue being friends with him, a certain hesitation to be a friend of an ex is more than understandable, and ofcourse this thought of considering getting together at a future date, we do get attached with people hehe, I get that really and would be confused in a similar situation also.
Now, I do not know your entire situation and how you feel about it, plus you get to decide for yourself soooo, I'll say, do what you feel is best for you at this time, what feels right/ nice to you in the *now*, maybe you'll end up together again maybe you'll not we never know, but if you feel you'd like to stay in touch as a friend, maintaining an amiable bond is a good idea.
About not liking some of the negative points surrounding him, know that you never have to put up with anything you're not okay with, neither as a girlfriend nor as a friend, we deserve to feel happy, safe and stable in our friendships/ relationships. And it is always okay to communicate how you feel and what you think about something, helps to clear things and be on the same page, I feel.
What do you think? ❤
It seems to me that the most painless way to get out of a relationship is to end abruptly and without turning around, while it is not necessary to quarrel, just stop any communication and remove everything that might resemble a person, since at first it is very difficult to realize that this person is now just friend, for me personally, such friendship is not entirely real