Unbalanced Friendships
I hate caring way to much, and I feel like I can’t seem to find a balance and want to cut everyone off because of it. I was invited to my one sided friendship with my childhood best friend to her bachelorette party which was nice, and then she invited me to her wedding, but rescheduled it because of everything going on, but she still had a small wedding with her bachelorette party. It honestly bothers me I was not invited to this wedding. As I’m invited to her second one she’s having. If roles were reversed she would be top to be invited no matter what. I have another friend who seems to drop me when better plans comes through, and really hasn’t been very understanding of my struggles and I feel has become toxic positivity to me. These friends live miles far away, and I feel like deleting them from my life is petty, but at the same time I’m hurt that I’m not as important to them than they are to me. I’m just very unsure what to do about it. I’m trying to have a mindset to just keep them on the back burner, and keep in touch here, and there, but that’s very hard for me, and part of me just wants to part ways to move forward, and just delete them from my life.
I feel like that a lot of times too. I’ve been so burned by people so many times I’d usually just rather not let them in anymore. It hurts so much when they pass you over for someone or something “better” and you don’t feel included. My mom always told me that true friends who really cherish and appreciate you are very few and far between in real life, and we’re made to feel by society like if we don’t have alot of people around or people mistreat us there’s something wrong with us. It hurts not to be picked or seen. I really don’t have a solution for you unfortunately. I wish I did. I wish I knew how to make it better for us both. But at least I can say to you that there’s someone here who gets it, because I really do.
Your post means so much me to know that I’m not the only one dealing with this. It’s a very lonely cold world out there, and hopefully one day we will be able to find at least someone to be by our side through it all. I am sorry to hear you are going through something similar. Until then I’m just trying to embrace my solitude as much as possible.
I feel the exact same way you do. I’ve been burned so much it’s hard to trust people and let them in.
I honestly have been feeling like I'm the only 1 who feels like this. This past year has been a horrible one for me. The people I thought would always be there feel like they no longer care and and hangibg around with people they warned me about or told me to be wary of.... I feel so let down and betrayed. I really hope that someone comes along for us who actually cares and wants to match the energy and heart that it feel like we give out but never receive back in return
@Mre605 I’m so glad at least it helped a little. It’s helpful for me too to know I’m not alone. I hope we find that someday too, we deserve to have good people around us. 💜
@warmheartedplace7945.. that situation where people warned you about other people and then became friends with them.. I’ve had a very similar situation happen too. It’s shocking and so painful. I had some friends that really really betrayed me and screwed me over and then stole the one friend I thought I could trust.. I regret ever introducing them. I guess it’s better to have all the friends who weren’t true taken out of my life. But it still is very very painful