10 Years 2 Kids
Been With The Father Of My Babies For Almost 10 Years Now, Been Through Everything Together.... Hasn't Been The Greatest But Hasn't Been The Worst Either. Pulled Me To The Side The Other Night And Was Told He Didn't Want To Be With Me Anymore. I Refused To Discuss It Because I've Been Through And Done So Much For And With This Man. He Says He Loves Me And Never Said He Didn't Want To Fix It, I Was Stupid And Didn't Give Him The Time He Asked For To Think, Now He Won't Speak To Me At All About Anything, Won't Call Like He Used To.... I Refuse To Believe Him When He Says He Loves Me Because You Don't Destroy People You Love. He Doesn't Want To See Me And The Kids Leave But If I Do He Will Seek A Lawyer For 50 50. I Told Him I Didn't Want To Go That Way With Him. I Want To Fix Whatever Is Going On. Idk..... He Has Me *** Up In My Emotions And I Don't Know What To Do.
@emotionalScarf7486
You got a shock and you rightly reacted.
It was alot.
Give yourself some time to process and work through your emotions.
When you are in a more content place, hopefully you both can have an open and honest conversation and see how you both get through this , for you both and the kids to be happy 💜💕
@emotionalScarf7486
It is hard and you must be thinking or overthinking so much. He told you he does not want to be with you, if he wants time fine but IMO this is the time to talk about it and to really listen too.
I know you must have felt blindsided but maybe it is not working for him at the moment. In order to fix it you need to see the problem not dismiss his feelings and think time in means it cannot fail.
Being able to see and understand how another is feeling is hard ... he loves and cares for you but maybe is not feeling in love or connected with you. It happens and sometimes one partner tries and struggles with things before they need a break or to not be together. Maybe they cannot find the heart to hurt you with telling you how they feel or what is bothering them. I am just working on a similar type thing, but I was the one who lost feelings and connection. it has taken a long time and some work on myself before I could work on relationship. my partner did not want to listen or really understand until it came to a point like this of someone leaving.
Both need to be honest with each other, tell each other how you feel and explain what is not working. Trust me NO one wants to hear things sometimes. Relationships are a growing living thing and sometimes it is not getting the things that keep it growing. You can only work and help yourself through either fixing or finding ways to be able get along for your kids.... if you stay open to communication.
