29F married 35M. Don't know what to do anymore
Started dating in 2016. Married in 2023. In the beginning our relationship was great. We had "spice" everything was good. Years go by. He stopped initiating contact. I am the one who gives him hugs. I give him kisses. He hasn't touched me in nearly a year. I've tried to seduce him. Failed. He says the only reason to do that is to have kids not for pleasure. I am a very hyper active person and I feel I am married to a asexual. I love him and want it to work but. I sometimes feel I just need to go to a bar for a hook up sometimes.
@merjewel, we have all be there, I am working through this myself and correcting some of the mistakes I ahve made. If you want to talk about it outside the post let me know.
@merjewel
He should have shared his feelings about intimacy before you married and let you make the choice then. He betrayed you letting you believe otherwise. if you have not suggested counseling to resolve, or plan your life be it an open marriage or divorce.
it is a healthy part of a marriage and ways to share your commitment. It IMO is never right for a spouse to refuse or withhold intimacy from their spouse.
