Abusive GF
I’m in a 2 year relationship with this girl and at first, it was great. But as time goes by, I’ve noticed that the scale is no longer balanced. Draining my finances, hurting me intentionally, humiliating me to her family and threatening to unalive herself after she will ruin my image/name by posting our intimate video if I ever want to leave. Despite this treatment, I am still in love with her. I cry every night because of her yet I find myself wanting for her attention and validation. I’m going crazy. I’ve tried detaching myself from her and did the no-contact thing but she finds way to reach out. Two days ago, I asked for space so I shutdown all of my device but she made a fake profile of me and reached out to my family just to get my attention. I don’t know what to do anymore. I still long for her yet I’m so hurt.
@faithfulShade6457
It's become a habit, yes you love her, but you've become use to the attention the connection, being with someone.
But it's toxic.
You deserve happiness, respect, love, fun, not second guessing, manipulation and disrespect.
Love doesn't do what she is doing.
You need to reclaim your worth and allow yourself to heal.
She'll never take accountability for her actions when she never takes any responsibility.
💕💜
Thank you, kind stranger.
@faithfulShade6457
A pleasure genuinely 💜
@faithfulShade6457 Hey, I'm sorry you're going through this and I hope things get better. Your girlfriend is very abusive, no one deserves to be treated that way. If you can, please take screenshots & keep a record of what she's doing in case she escalates.
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Thank you. I’ll try to watch it during my free time. I appreciate it.
@faithfulShade6457
Hey there,
That sounds incredibly painful and confusing. You clearly still care deeply about her, but what you’re describing, the threats, humiliation, and emotional manipulation, goes far beyond a rough patch. Nobody deserves to be treated that way, no matter how strong the feelings are.
What’s happening sounds like emotional and psychological abuse. The threats to harm herself or share intimate material are serious, and you shouldn’t try to handle that on your own. Reach out to someone you trust and consider contacting a local support line. Save any evidence and protect your accounts and privacy. If she ever talks about ending her life, take it seriously by reaching out to emergency services or a crisis helpline, but you are not responsible for managing her safety.
It’s completely normal to still want her attention. When love and pain get mixed together, it creates a strong emotional pull that’s hard to break. What matters now is your safety and peace of mind. Writing this out and asking for help already shows strength and awareness. Keep reaching out and don’t face this alone.
Once incredible good resource about evaluating a relationship was this book for me:
Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay - A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship
It helps you sort out the messy thoughts and emotions.
Thank you. I’ll check the book out. I appreciate it.
Hey, firstly its alright to feel this way about her. Its important to accept and be true to yourself. Some relationships do more damage than good to you. Since tou know all the cons of this relationship thats a first step and be proud of yourself for realising all this. You are so much atteched and invested in this feeling. We all have been there once. There is this fear of losing her and constant stress that it wont be the same without her. Thats what makes you long for her still. All it will take is time and Strength once you are really determined on getting out of it. Do it for yourself and your loved ones who deserve to see you content and happy.
All the best i wish you peace and strength :)
Hey, firstly its alright to feel this way about her. Its important to accept and be true to yourself. Some relationships do more damage than good to you. Since tou know all the cons of this relationship thats a first step and be proud of yourself for realising all this. You are so much atteched and invested in this feeling. We all have been there once. There is this fear of losing her and constant stress that it wont be the same without her. Thats what makes you long for her still. All it will take is time and Strength once you are really determined on getting out of it. Do it for yourself and your loved ones who deserve to see you content and happy.
All the best i wish you peace and strength :)