Advice
Sorry for the late response I'm at work it's been difficult it's my relationship my girlfriend has been weird with me for a good couple of weeks I feel like she dosent love me anymore and she wants more from me I work 10 hours a day everyday I come home I pick her up make her food every day every morning I drop her off then she went to this party the other day she hardly spoke to me and I was down depressed drunk I had an online chat with a person witch I shouldn't off had witch it was a sexual chat and now she has found out and everything is my fault when I feel like she dosent want me anymore she dosent want to break up with me she wants me to be more honest with her I don't know how to open up my feelings at all they just stay in until
something like this happenes sorry I feel like I’m not geared in what I’m saying I have done everything for her for the past 2 years and I just let this thing build up inside me and I’ve done something absolutely stupid I’m just stuck
@ryant456
You are not alone. many have been in same spot in a relationship.
you work hard .. you do things for her yet it does not seem like it is enough. I will tell you I had a partner whom worked like crazy and did nice gestures for me but I was not happy... why because work was first and the gestures on surface seemed nice but was not what I wanted or needed.
the chatting with someone even if not sexual shows you can communicate but somehow not with your GF. Many men IMO say they are not good at sharing feelings etc. how does anyone expect to be good at something if they do not practice or try. the emotional connection between 2 people is important and i think your GF feels disconnected.
you do not need to say everything about feelings at once but showing some and talking with her can help. if she makes you feel uncomfortable in sharing taht is why so many find someone else to chat with is it is easy to talk to them. GF has some work to do in sharing what she wants.
@toughTiger6481
Thank you I know I have done wrong by doing the action I did and I’d do anything to take it back I want to prove my self to her witch is what I’m going to do but theirs been stuff going on for weeks now where she dosent want to do anything with me but will do it with other people like I said to her do you want to go to the cinemas she’s says no she dosent like it then the next day she was at the cinema with her mates I planned to take her out for dinner after I finished work and when I was down her street she rang me and said her mate was going round can I pick her up later theirs been loads of instances like this and I feel like it’s built up into something in me and that’s why I did what I did I explained this to her and how she made me feel but she just turns it around on me like my opinion and my feelings don’t matter then she said to me that she wants me to communicate more witch I ageee with both of us but it dosent help that her best friend is a girl who I had a relationship with and every time she’s around their it makes me uncomfortable and i just know she tells her lies about me she tried to start a rumour about me saying some nasty stuff and she was trying to tell my gf theirs been a lot I could go on and on
@ryant456
Seems like she is trying to punish you that is NOT helpful. Do not take the bait. maybe she should see this type of junk is a good way to ruin it.
This is a great way to use the " I feel" statements... like I told my partner " I feel" your reactions are not helpful" ... the beauty is if they turn on you and tries to dismiss your feelings. I said "so you think you can dictate my feelings or tell me my feelings are wrong " They can argue facts not feelings. stopped my partner from pushing back.
Do you think this other girl would like you to break up so she could make a move on you. Or mad you did not chose her? .. girls can be very vindictive