Affection or just friends
I (21F) have been with my girlfriend (21F) for a few months now, we never were friends before we started dating, but it weirdly just feels like she’s a friend I can cuddle with. She likes me and wants to spend more time with me than I do with her but idk if that’s because she is more attached than I am or if it’s because I can’t feel emotional/physical attraction in a romantic way.
I am super struggling with this because she’s putting so much effort into this relationship because she wants it to work but I just don’t know how to, but I still do like her, I think.
Am I just not into her specifically or am I asexual/aromantic?
@nathan08
I think many have gone thru this where we find a person and it just does not go past good friends even if the other person is interested in a bigger relationship. We often cannot make ourselves attracted and in love with someone even if they meet all the other items but are just in the friend zone.
Have you had someone you were really in to?
You are still young .....some people do not meet a person that makes you feel everything for years
If you felt it before but just not with her it may simply be that prolonging it and letting her think it will be more is not going to work.
That like is my original thought but it’s also my first relationship and I’ve never been with anyone this long before so I don’t know what’s normal or good for me.
@nathan08
I get it many try IMO too hard trying to hold on to our first long term relationship.
I will tell you i think too many try to make it work for the wrong reasons. time invested does not make it happen.
I had a person like that but I did not have the feelings I had with the person I ended up with. I know the person who wanted the relationship was very hurt that I only saw them as friend ...... because I was not honest about it and led them to think there was a chance. Until my partner came along we have been together decades.
What if I like like her but I don’t know if I will get to the point of love. Like the attraction is there for sure but I feel like my feelings aren’t growing. I’m guessing the end result is the same but idk. She’s planning things out for like December at this point and it’s like who even knows if we’re gonna get there.
