Being avoidant
Hello I've a problem. Im getting really avoidant and dry to my partner everytime I'm jealous. I rlly don't want to be avoidant and dry but I don't know what to do about it. Pls help.
@communicativeApple9560
HI Apple.
It sounds like you are getting avoidant when you are feeling jealous. So maybe you could look at what is behind the jealousy feelings?
From my experience, avoidance is a way of expressing or coping with fear. Could it be at all possible that you are afraid of something? Not being good enough? Losing your husband, maybe? That would make sense with the jealousy. If so, you could maybe look at what is behind the fear and how to reduce that.
All these would be very valid and common things to experience. But also quite complex. So you might want to consider finding professional help to guide you through it. It's great that you recognise these things and want to work on them and improve them. I wish you all the best in achieving this.