Betrayal
Not sure if is the right group. But here is my start on this app, the need of it was desperation of been betrayed for the 2nd time, 3 years gap in between of forgive, rebuild trust back, sensation of having the best 2 years, fully and pure… and going together through a bad time due business, kids, stress.. and it happened again (with the same person) and here I am. Broken trying to figure out my existence to him, the reason of betraying and hurting me again. Even though he says he’s never done it to hurt me and his main words are he doesn’t know why he did it, I asked is it sex or love, wich answered is not love.
We have 2 small girls 5 and 10, we have business together, we live together in an apartment and we already waited for the success and stability to move to bigger home.. I also started recently after 9 years ago I started but had to stop due the kids, my career as stunt woman, and I feel stuck in the reality of I have strength to fulfill my home, my kids, our business and my career.. but with him? He doesn’t want me to go, I feel scared and broken on loosing him.. I hate what’s he’s done to me twice now… and even that, I still love him, and what we built together.. so I’m lost, broken when it gets to the cotidian moments of relationship.. going to bed.. the goodbyes are no contact. It’s killing me and I’m lost…
Any tips?
@ambitiousPapaya2047
what do you really want?
I have lived thru betrayal in different ways too and the reality is marriage/ partnership is really hard. Betrayals can happen IMO when a person sees them as a fun interesting and attractive person ... makes us feel like more than a roommate/ business partner and co-parent.
What was different in the great 2 years you reconnected after last time? What changed since then did you go back to same busy life before it happened before?
Have you found out what is he getting out of the other situation is not just either sex or love... it can be no stress, being listened to, spontaneity feeling appreciated... it ALL matters.
You have listed about your life together home, kids, business restarting your career etc... what about just you and him? your relationship, do you tell him how you feel in LOVE? ...
if talk is all about kids/ schedules/ business issues and plans..... you are now coworkers but not as a couple. When you have a moment and talk about one more reminder of this or that or idea about something. do we assume we are on the same page.
* the questions are to spur your thoughts, not expecting an answer just things to think about. *