Boyfriend issue…
So I got with my boyfriend in April 2024, I found out he cheated throughout the first year of our relationship with who I thought was only his ex. I would then find out that it did not happen ‘only once’ like he claimed and it wasn't only her. He had tried to contact another ex and also slept with a colleague from work, plus I also found out he was speaking to other females (& I don’t know if he actually slept with any of them). After finding out about this, I felt trapped since I already decided to continue the relationship after finding out about the initial cheating. Anyways, after I caught him cheating, he promised to change, not go out without me, not drink aa much and have his location on. To which he never kept his promise as he has been going out without me and still drinks.
On Friday, I caught him lying about his location, as he left his phone at his friend’s house so he could go out partying. I have now been thinking that he has been doing this for a while, because on many occasions he has said he’s fallen asleep at odd times/ fallen asleep at his friend’s house and waking up & messaging me at 5am.
So on Saturday, I decided to ignore his calls and messages and I also did not go to his brothers birthday as I thought if I would’ve gone, it would mean that everything is okay in relationship when it’s not. He reacted by turning his location off. He then called me once more on Saturday night, which I never picked up.
On Sunday, he messaged me hello, to which I replied hello back. But now he’s ignoring me? All it’s making me think is that he doesn’t care since he hasn’t reached out.
I don’t know how to feel or act. I’m just in a confused state as to what to do. I don’t feel like I have done anything wrong so I don’t want to reach out. And I also don’t think the relationship is worth being in anymore.
@orangePal7816
It sucks that he cannot be honest with you or commit. If he was concerned or really cared about you, he would have kept his promise.
The "I left my phone or fell asleep at a friend's" seems like a flimsy excuse and his " friend" also has zero respect for you.
For some people the wait to respond is a power play game about who calls first or tries to fix things. If you are the one trying to repair damage after damage, he must feel it is OK to do that over and over.
When we reach the idea on our own that the relationship is not worth it anymore it is time to value ourselves. I think you know what you want to do it is now just putting those thoughts into action.