Cheating
I cheated. I sent a pic ( I don’t believe it was in a sexual way but more so validation) of me in bikini bottoms and a tshirt, I was not completely undressed. Anyways my husband of 2 years found out, and was wrecked. But I can’t help but to feel as though it was a breach of trust and not okay AT ALL. But… I feel like he is really making me feel like I went out and did something physical, and he is saying horrible things but also wants to work o things. The back and forth is exhausting. Not to mention that he said some horrible things and just really have been mean. He told his brother, didn’t tell me that he did, went over to a family event and they treated me with such disrespect, while holding MY baby. I feel like there was so much that was said, I’m afraid that things won’t be the same. Any Advice?
I can understand that both sides are hurt in this situation; you feel as if he is lashing and over exaggerating, but I hope you understand that he is simply trying to handle being hurt. Full nudity or not, it hurts your partner the same. My advice would be that you both are heated and need space to cool down, then sit down and have a conversation expressing and respecting how each of you are feeling about the situation. Once that is out of the way, put full focus on how you two can move forward with rebuilding trust and get back to a healthy place in your relationship. Keep in mind that this could be a bigger deal for your partner than how you feel about it, and there is a chance that they may find it healthiest to separate (at least for a while) so you both can grow back into a healthier mindset. Cheating can be something easily talked through, or cause catastrophic damage, no matter how "light" or "heavy" the cheating was. It really depends on those involved, history, and how each person grows moving forward. I truly wish you both the best and that it all works out well in the end.
Thank you for sharing! Yes I do agree I am working on being a better version of myself and why I did what I did.
@bravePear8839
This is a situation much deeper and yet so many want to keep it on the surface level.
You need to have a real discussion not about what you were wearing in a photo but why you hit SEND. I think calling it cheating is too much but if there is thoughts and feelings of other steps ... it is a past time to repair what is wrong in your relationship. so early into a marriage makes me think you were not sure of getting married ... was this for the baby? Think deep of how you really feel not well we have a baby we should be married etc.... that is putting on a show not how you really feel.
Granted he probably should not have shared with family. Yes, that damage is done and they will remember and bring it up any time there is an issue ... I think hurt people do that in a way so they do not forgive easily because people know and wanting support at the same time.
Thank you for saying that. I am starting therapy to understand that, and we are starting couples therapy as well. I agree, I don’t want to stay together just for our baby but because we love each other.
