Communication issue
I'm looking for advice for this situation I'm in, my ex broke up with me 2 months ago for communication issues on my part. I have a hard time talking about my feelings and have had bad experiences before so when I do talk about it with her she always shuts me down and controls when the conversation ends I'm just very upset with this because I never get to say what I want to say to her and last time I said some mean things I didn't mean to say and she said for me to never contact her again, I think I made a mistake for reaching out today to apologize for what I said. its been like this ever since we broke up does anyone have any advice for me to get better at communicating my feelings?
She's cheating on you
@tidyPine5304
Learning to communicate with a person often has part of their communication issues too... it is not all on you. in couples often it is not about what was said or meant but people half listening and planning in what to respond instead of listening openly.
I did more "I feel" statement with partner as they cannot tell us we are wrong...... for what we feel. It gets same item across but less accusing.
Example if we say "I feel you are not listening" vs "you never listen". They also are sometimes off guard when we change our style of communication. it takes practice and patience.
Hmmm i see