Complicated grief

I’m struggling with a situation that has left me feeling heartbroken and stuck. After my longtime partner passed away, I began a relationship with someone who was helping me through my grief. He was in the process of ending his marriage and was driving to move to my state when he experienced a severe psychiatric crisis. He voluntarily admitted himself to a residential mental health program and, based on the information I have, recently completed about 120 days there and transitioned to a step-down house.

Right before he entered treatment, he told his family that I was a scammer. I believe it was said in panic, but I don’t know exactly why. Worried about his safety, I reached out to one of his daughters. That made everything much worse, and since then I’ve had no communication with him for four months.

A few days ago, I sent one final message letting him know that I forgive him, that I hope he’s doing well, and that I’m giving him the space he may need. I’m not looking for anyone to tell me what he’s thinking or whether he’ll come back. I’m here because the uncertainty, the silence, and not knowing if he’s okay have become emotionally overwhelming.

I’m hoping he’s OK but not knowing has been incredibly difficult.