Engagement fell apart
My fiance recently broke up with me. We were dating for 5 years. She went through my phone while I was sleeping and discovered that I had been collecting photos of women (ex gfs, girls I briefly dated, friends I had crushes on, models). These were all public photos anyone can see from their social media. Except 1 girl who sent me private ones. I know I was wrong to do this. I have since deleted everything.
She said I am sick and it was the worst type of cheating because it went on for years.
Now she won't forgive me and also insists I must have some disorder. I actually never used any of these photos to pleasure myself. But I don't want to minimize what I did.
She is mad that I ruined our relationship and our family. It's been 3 weeks. She doesn't even want to look at me or talk to me. She says she will be moving out soon.
@niceCat5755,
there might have been more going on, otherwise why would she go through your phone?
Sounds like she already had trust issues.
I had a lot of saved porn videos. But I was always upfront with that because she watches porn as well but she says she doesn't save them and she doesn't watch it as much as me.
@niceCat5755,
as I said, it might be that she already had trust issues. And/or wanted out and used this as an excuse.
Just let it be.
@niceCat5755
So you had a collection of photos.... even if one was private photos sent to you... how is this betrayal especially if some photos you have had for years. When is a moment when all your things become fair game for a partner to ask to be destroyed .......cannot wait for the time we can insist any memories should be zapped and erased from our brains too ... wipe a clean slate when you meet someone and start a relationship. your were non existent until they come into your life.
The attitude of late that somehow your phone and your privacy belongs to a partner ..... is ridiculous. people are all out looking for something to be mad about or blame is because they do not want to admit they maybe were not sure about what they want.
Let her be mad ... let her blame you but really she went looking for something ...
