Feeling envious of my boyfriend …
We’ve been dating for almost 3 years I’m 25 he is 27… and we were both broke students back then. Then he started his job and became a little more active and successful, plays sports during the week and seems to be happy with this lifestyle. Me on the other hand , still stuck on my masters thesis , broke, no job in my field (molecular biology) yet. He is also very social , still has friends from high school , they always have plans , so I consider my boyfriend a very happy and positive person. I had no adolescence. My mom was very controlling, always said no to going out and I also feel like I was still a little girl back in highschool, like I still wasn’t mature enough to go out and try a cigarette or drink alcohol even if I wanted to. so now at 25, I feel like I didn’t have fun comparing to my bf. So I feel envious of him, not in a bad way. But I get sad , because I know that when we aren’t together he still has some fun alone, his life is full and i have no extra activity, nothing to feel fulfilled , so I feel incomplete. People go to the gym, play sports, have dinners with friends .. I don’t, I get a day or 2 where I have a little tea time with a friend but that’s it. I don’t have a group of friends to plan a trip or anything. So he doesn’t mind spending some days without me because he feels fulfilled alone, he has his plans set. Even though I like being alone and I value my alone time , I still feel I should be focusing more on myself and be confident so I don’t feel this way every time … I don’t want him to notice this
@barb1999
other then being broke what is stopping you from a bucket list type thing of of trying new things or having your teen years NOW.... find your passion other the school or work focus.... will you LIVE only to work or will you work so you can live the way that makes you happy....
Life should not be a comparison and you can not live through another persons fun etc... do you join him in some outings and fun watch him in sports etc? If no why not?
I appreciate those dedicated to pursuing higher degrees and things but you are postponing your life thinking once your done with thesis and Find a job everything will fall into place.......IMO it will be harder as most your age will have set friends/ lifestyle while you are just starting yours....