Found inappropiate texts between husband & neighbor/friend
A few months ago I found some inappropiate messages between my husband & neighbor. I confronted him & we are currently trying to figure things out. I sent her some screen shots & basically said you are an f'd up person. Both say nothing actually happened just the texting (I really don't believe that). She called & texted me but I just couldn't deal with her at that point in time. Since then she has asked to talk a few times. I'm now on the fence about having a conversation with her. I'll never be her friend again but I also feel like I deserve answers. I'm not sure if talking with her would cause me harm than good. Thoughts?
@diligentHickory9533
I'm sorry you are having to deal with this!
They crossed a line but ultimately with work and communication, you and your husband can come back from this.
I cannot tell you what to do, I personally would hear her out, for my benefit and not for hers, if for nothing more than closure, at the very least!
I hope you get things sorted, regardless of your decision!
💜💕
@diligentHickory9533
It will NOT help in my opinion... she was never your "friend " to even consider texting your spouse.
Any person who plays they want to talk it is about trying to be forgiven for themselves ......they had no issue hurting you. You can work hard to reconnect and fix with husband and learn to talk and be open. this will help protect that this does not happen again.
@toughTiger6481
That's exactly what my best friend says.
@diligentHickory9533
In case you needed some closure or additional explanation, talking to your neighbour might help. But in general I believe you might not need it at all to go through all those difficult emotions again.
I would not suggest treating her either as fully absolved, or as bad to the bone, because most people are somewhere in-between and just make mistakes.
However, I think what happened (or _could_ happen) might be a sole reason enough to no longer stay in touch with that person. With no hate, but just for your own safety.
Maybe some day you would be able to talk about it with her. But now, I suppose, it might be wiser to let the time work for you. And listen to your gut feeling...
@jacek73
Yeah my gut feeling tells me she is trouble. Unfortunately we have to have some contact. Our kids are friends.
