Ghosting
Struggling with this
I’m in my mid 40s going through separation.. I met this beautiful, 31 year old doctor, she is hot, and super smart.. and she is going through divorce herself. Our first few meetings were intense, intimate and then I had to travel… I’m oceans away as I live in NA and she lives in the Middle East. We have been talking non stop for 6 weeks and we started developing feelings.. she told me she is falling for me, she is a resident doctor, and have tests coming up, and told me she is getting her *** together
Two weeks ago, communication started wining down… and 11 days ago, she sent me a message saying she is going through lots of crap but she is getting her *** together, and that she misses me.
After that I sent her couple of supporting messages, and nothing at all.. zip .. silence… she never responded … I’m torn.. I’m supposed to travel to her in 1 month, after her exams and I booked a place for us.. but I have a feeling that she maybe ghosting because of the intensity of her situation and the fact that she is falling for me.. what shall I do? Her last contact was 8 days ago, mine was 4 days.. will she come back??
Hi @decisiveMapleCAN ✨
Thanks for sharing - that is a very difficult question to answer, what is your gut feeling telling you?
The communication was only four days ago, maybe you give her a little space and wait for an answer? Otherwise send her a clear message, explaining that your trip is in one month and asking her to be clear if you are going to meet
Sometimes, thoughts invade us and we don’t even know what is really happening - communication is paramount. If she doesn’t reply, then, you have an answer
Sending positive thoughts ✨
I have no idea Elena.. things were going great, and then it stopped. I was advised not to send her anything and wait.. it’s been 13 days since her last message, and since then I sent her couple of support messages. She may need space? I have no idea..
Im confused…. But I value myself and I can’t keep reaching out.. she knows I’M travelling to meet her in 1 month, but I also know she has medical exams coming up in 2-3 weeks and that must be stressful with work, kid, divorce.. etc
I can’t even imagine @decisiveMapleCAN - it is quite challenging to guess what is really going on… I understand that things can get extremely hectic and upside down, but there’s always a couple of minutes to express it: “I am busy” “Talk to you soon” or something along those lines…
13 days is a long time - would you do the trip even if you don’t hear anything back?
I experienced a similar situation: sudden no communication, then I crossed the world and everything had changed, ergo, the lack of communication…but every case is different
Wishing you the best✨
Every case is different indeed Elena
I feel im lost without her .. I feel she’s lost without me as well. She lost her dad when she’s young.. separation, a kid, demanding work.. etc
I have family and friends there so I can still go even if she’s not going to be there…
I have a feeling that she maybe wanting physical intimacy, but no commitment… maybe a friend with benefit situation. Mostly because of her past bad experiences
All the very best @decisiveMapleCAN ✨
thanks- have u heard about the scrambler method to break the silence? Asking her for a favor and get some traction back.. thanks- have u heard about the scrambler method to break the silence? Asking her for a favor and get some traction back.. thoughts?