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User Profile: exuberantCoconut5377
exuberantCoconut5377 July 26th, 2024


New to this community and sharing about my feelings in general so please bare with me if anything doesn’t seem clear. Basically what’s been going on is for the past few days my girlfriend of 1 year has been hanging out with her guy friend everyday. I have been feeling insecure and jealous about him because deep down I just have this feeling that they’ll develop feelings for each other and she’ll just lose all interest in me. I tried communicating with her about my feelings for a few days but I was speaking from a place of fear and insecurity so we didn’t get a chance to really have healthy communication. I suggested we go on a break so that I can work on my own self worth and self confidence and also just focus on my mental health as a whole. I genuinely just haven’t been sleeping well I haven’t ate anything. I get these random thoughts of her and her friend having so much fun and I just feel inadequate. And don’t get me wrong I know my girlfriend doesn’t have that many friends to hangout with besides me and this is healthy for her. But I just get so hurt seeing them together. I have trust issues from past relationships that I’ve been trying to work on for my girlfriend but this just seems like a big leap for me and I just don’t know how to handle it.

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User Profile: Arias31
Arias31 July 26th, 2024

@exuberantCoconut5377 I am sorry you feel that way, it is completely natural and okay. Of course the feelings of jealousy and insecurity are hard to get away with. But the only question you should ask yourself is if you are willing to trust her and give it a shot.

Try talking with her about the same thing too maybe her reassurance helps you.

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User Profile: exuberantCoconut5377
exuberantCoconut5377 OP July 27th, 2024

Thank you I really needed this advice.

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User Profile: toughTiger6481
toughTiger6481 July 27th, 2024

@exuberantCoconut5377

Hey i get it many a partner does not like it or may get insecure but asking for a break seems to open the door wide open for that to happen.

I had male friends and at one point my then BF now husband took a break this is when friend thought i was single and perhaps upset about the break and may need friend to cry on his shoulder and more...etc. 

trust needs to be built while in the relationship ...