How Long is Long Enough?
First timer here…
I am wondering how long is long enough to feel guilty for a huge mistake I made 13-14 years ago? Of course there’s a long story, but my husband and I have been married for 21 years, we were in a very bad place and I kissed another guy. Of course it’s awful, and I know that. But we’ve had a lot of therapy, and I feel like we were finally ahead of this. Then my husband went through my phone and found a text that I had just received recently from the guy I kissed (he’s also one of my bosses)- but I didn’t know I got the msg, what it said, nor did I invite this. Now my husband says he feels cheated on all over again. I didn’t want this attention! I didn’t invite this, didn’t ask for it… I just don’t know what to do
@MusicianBiker74
That is more than long enough. It is IMO not out of the realm of a boss texting someone. if this was a breaking point why wait this long to hold this as a problem?
I do not feel your spouse wants to move on and let go. Has he had leverage on this for all that time. Why was he looking thru phone and trying to resurrect this issue. this to me seems to be a bigger issue then a kiss so long ago. sometimes people say it is about one thing, but it is about so much more.
