How to win her over
My girlfriend and I got in a huge fight over my liking other girls bikini pictures. In full honesty, I had no idea I was doing it. I just doom scroll and like and didn’t notice. However, I have always known that this isn’t okay and should have paid more attention. She’s really hurt, which is fair, but hasn’t talked to me in almost two weeks (we’re medium distance and she wants to talk in out in person). When we have briefly talked, it’s just been fighting and she’s been pretty vulgar when expressing her anger and pain. How do I win her over when we talk in person? It was an honest mistake and I don’t want our relationship to be over because of it.
@goldenStrings6189 I understand that you and her both feel that you are in the wrong for liking images of other females in bikinis. Being she's a woman, it's disrespectful to the relationship.... yes... but... what she is doing and how she is behaving is wrong too! In my opinion, that's abusive because of the intention behind of. This is not healthy for the relationship. How can a relationship work with no real communication? For the sake of the relationship, please don't allow this to continue. You may have did somethinc you regret, but this is not warranting weeks of no talking. It just doesn't add up. What is she hoping this will solve? I'm sorry you're at the point of uncertainty between the both you. Thus is where she is the best person to talk to to find out what's going on. I hope you both can work this out and forgive. Please be kind to yourself in the meantime. Take care. ♡
@goldenStrings6189 I understand how your girlfriend feels. After interpreting your action as a threat to exclusivity—or to just liking her—those feelings of insecurity and fear of abandonment can end up being expressed as anger.
@intellectualVase2518 This! 💯 💯 Wonderfully expressed!
@YourCaringConfidant I appreciate your kind words. You also raise a great point about how it’s hard to make a relationship work when there isn’t real communication. After reading that almost two weeks had passed without them talking to each other, I couldn’t help but think that this couldn’t be healthy. However, I prefer to give her the benefit of the doubt, because taking space for herself might be her way of coping with feelings of hurt. So, I just hope she at least communicated with him and told him that she needed time alone to think and deal with her emotions, instead of just straight up ignoring him by avoiding any conversation.
@goldenStrings6189 give her time to heal ,iit must ve broken her heart still u need to let her know that u do understand her pain and that u didnt do it on pupose and that u re willing to change , the way u explained it to us in this post ,the best way to do that is to gop to meet her in person ,try not to mention the vulger speaking part now ,but if it bothers u talk to her about it when u start talking again .