Idk how to feel…
Hello,
I’ve been seeing this guy since April and we’ve kinda grown closer now. We’ve both established that we aren’t ready for a full relationship but we hang out often and talk constantly. However, we talked fully yesterday about how we feel for each other (and we have in the past) and he confessed honestly that he’s afraid of commitment. We’ve both said that we like each other a lot but he also told me yesterday since I asked if we were a exclusive or not in our situationship. He confessed he has been talking to like two other girls through texting only or that I know of. I’m just confused and a bit conflicted with my feelings because I was sure of how I felt before but now even though I’m still not ready for a relationship right now, I still wanna know we’re heading somewhere, that there is something in the future. He says he’s not ready right now and I feel idk like he’s waiting for something better to come and I’m kinda just like back up. I really don’t know how to feel about the situation I just want some advice cause I didn’t think it was hurting me but now I’m just crying in my room thinking about it all. Idk …
@versatileHuman9574
It is early in your relationship.... or situation ship whatever you chose to call it. the conversation brought up the idea of exclusive and he told you he was talking to others.
This sounds like it was surprise to you even though he told you he was not ready for a commitment.... I would like you to consider he was honest with you ... if he was just stringing you along and keeping as backup he could have said whatever he thought you wanted to hear...
I know it is frustrating but many relationships one person feels something faster or knows they may want more sooner.... Him telling you at the moment he is still looking does not mean it is over with you just he may not feel close enough or feel the same as you.
since it has been a short time maybe you can continue and if do not see any growth towards a future move on ....or move on now before you know if his feelings are still developing.
