I feel selfish
so ive been with this girl for about 2 months and shes my dream girl, I take her on dates every week, I bring her food if shes hungry, i support her dreams, her passions and goaIs. I love her and I know she appreciated everything ive ever done for her. But for the past couple of days shes suddenly switched her mindset completely, it doesnt feel like im talking to the same cheerful, warm loving girl that Ive been talking to since I met her. I asked if I was putting too much pressure on her since ive always been aware that I can be clingy and obsessed. she said I wasnt putting pressure and then proceeds to ghost me for the past 4 days, shes been acting super different leading up to it, like we lost our spark out of nowhere. This is my first gf and Ive always said that if we were to ever argue then we better be communicative. but shes completely switched up on me. I know yall need more context to better judge me but im feeling sick just thinking about it, because in my head, I know it was probably my fault and I cant stop blaming myself
@Bruh173 II understand this situation might be difficult and overwhelming for you to manage as it's your first relationship. But from the context you have shared you expressed your feelings openly that's the key for healthy relationship.
Also she didn't expressed anything wrong with your efforts. Maybe You are doing the best you can. Maybe she just needs some time maybe it's not about you it's about her. Maybe just maybe she needs someone to understand her need for space and provide comfort to her in silence by just being there for her. So I think being positive(no self blame) and reassuring your presence to her in non clingy manner can help.
*You are expert on yourself and u know situation much better than me take whatever resonates*
@Bruh173
I can appreciate your direct and open approach about if there is a problem let's talk about it. however, a great policy only works if it is used. the idea of communicating is different than actually saying things that may be taken wrong etc. It is hard to tell someone "Hey, I need some space" ... or whatever is going on.
Sometimes we cannot speak up and tell other people things if we feel it will upset them or open a whole bunch of other things. support is great but also sometimes is pressure. very few admit to people something is too much.
Im still getting ghosted and Im trying to make sense of it all, im not closed minded and blinded by ego, I will listen and change for the better. And I love this community because I actually feel heard.
Im still getting ghosted and Im trying to make sense of it all, im not closed minded and blinded by ego, I will listen and change for the better. And I love this community because I actually feel heard.
Females act different than mens do. If you too loyal, obsessed and doing everything for her she most likely to get bored. Women's don't like easy things they like challenging. I did same I'm regretting. Keep moving and follow no contact rule for 7-14-21 days. Let her rethink you didn't do anything wrong
@powerfulHouse9182
my best friend agreed with this, im stressing because I am obsessed beyond belief, but ill listen if it means I get to talk to her again.
You are lucky you weren't in long distance relationship. I had gone through same but learning after loosing people that even if you obsessed, loyal, supportive, loving, caring and funny doesn't make you perfect. Females don't usually accept the easy things they like challenges. I'd say let her be the person who message you first. Hold your breath and count. I was in long distance relationship but I was being just like you but ended up with that dream girl to dream relationship.
I'm not telling bad things for you it just my prayers that you two guys stay together and be happy always. I have felt this pain it's been 6 months of breakup.
guys she broke up with me today, she said it wasnt my fault and that she wasnt ready for a relationship, and she said she was leading me on the whole time. She said I was a good person but that it wasnt a good time for her. Im hurting real bad over here, its been a struggle this week
@Bruh173
sorry she broke up with you. I never understood people who lead someone on or let them believe relationship was working then tell them they were not into it from start. it hurts less if someone is upfront and tell us truth
Sorry to hear that 😞