I get anxious every time my girlfriend does something out of routine I've made in my mind and it's tiring her(understandably), how can I self regulate
So it's been a struggle lately, like whenever she'd say little random things differently (like poor you instead of my poor you) I'd think there's something wrong and would start asking her if everything is okay and everything. I mean sometimes she was tired and she told me that but usually I think it was just me being anxious because of dumb stuff that didn't mean anything (like example above). She told me it's tiring and that I need to self regulate and I want to do that but don't know what to do. I really need advice because i don't want to lose my relationship because of this.
@wittyCar8428
It's important to just trust her and trust in your relationship and not analyse every little word that she says or take it up the wrong way.
You need to hold firm and realise that she's in this relationship with you because she wants to be 🩷
Trust that and keep the communication open and honest!
@wittyCar8428
It is a good sign you can see how you may overthink or take things differently.
Maybe if you can put yourself in your GF place. Having to watch every word or action in case you take it differently.
When you see how tiring it is to be so careful of each word, you may understand it is tiring and no fun to chat if you will question every word. If you want to stop, think of how you would feel if the situation was reversed.