Infidelity
Just found out my ex cheated on me 2 years and a half later in our relationship.. he did it 1 week after asking me to be his gf. And I found out right after buying a house with him. I’m trying to give him a second chance with counseling but I can’t even think straight anymore knowing this. I feel like I’m going crazy
@friendlyNectarine937
while i am guessing many thoughts going thru your head... you are in a different place in relationship now. Have you had a discussion about it and how you both can move forward.
Yes, he wants to work on himself and is determined to be better. I’m willing to give him a second chance because I genuinely love him as a person, which is different than the person I met. He was at a low point in his life when we first started dating. It’s just the thoughts in my head of him and the other person are driving me insane. Or knowing I forgave a cheater is a very repetitive thought too
@friendlyNectarine937
It get that and frankly we all change some by choice some by circumstances IMO. the reality is we can not change the past or he would have. I wasted lots of time thinking of past and things that will not change ... it robs us of the now.
The thing is with cheating is so many told themselves or listened to some made up phrase. That they would "never forgive" or the person would do it again.
The reality many people when facing the real thing ...... can forgive and they can let go of a hypothetical thought that they would not forgive and walk away. Forgiving and working on a relationship is much harder then running away from something that is hard.
