Infidelity
Last month I found out my husband and best friend of 14 years cheated on me. Wanted a divorce so he could be with a woman from his work. There is tons more but.. I can't cope. I'm spiraling.
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That's heartbreaking.
That they could both do that to you.
No communication.
No loyalty.
No respect.
You deserve so much better 💜💕
There's no getting round it you have the ultimate betrayal.
There are no words that will describe how awful you must be feeling.
Know there are people in your life that love you and there for you. Please do reach out for support.
Just do what you need to survive at this point and try move forward hour by hour day by day.
You will heal and things be ok one day.
Continue to reach out here if you need .
Be kind to yourself
That's a huge problem with me too. My entire family wants nothing to do with me because I chose to stay with him. He was an alcoholic and horrible for years and I was there by his side. Every step. The past year I've been very depressed and instead of helping me and being by my side, he started an affair with someone at work. I begged him to not leave me. On my knees. It's so humiliating.
I so sorry to hear this. That not only wre you suffering the breakdown of the your marriage but the lack of support from your family.
It is not your fault you chose to stay. Partners can exert so much pressure and emotionally and psychological manipulate you into staying in situations you know you shouldn't.
It shows courage and loyalty and care in trying to help him which makes the whole situation feel much worse because despite all that he has decided to cheat on you.
No one should have to beg for love so please don't anymore. You have to extract yourself from the acuteness of the situation just so you can get some breathing time and space .
You can and will recover from this.
If you get a panic episode where it's all too much then get help. In the moment try deep breaths and then focus on each of your senses. Pick something out you can see. Name it. Focus then on to something you can hear.. birds or even the hum of the fridge. Name it. Smell . Touch. That's sound take the focus away for a time to gather your thoughts.
Please be kind to yourself . Continue to reach out if you need .