Inflicting pain and I don’t know how to stop
Hey guys, I know this may be a long question or answer but I am really struggling making my girlfriend happy. A lot has gone on that we have endured with my family issues and her family issues and stuff I have done to her and she has done to me that we are trying to move on and learn from. We just seem to find ourselves in the same spot where i have done something to deeply hurt her but my intention is the complete opposite and I feel like no matter what I do, I am just making things worse. We have been together for 2+ years but it feels like we have had more bad moments than good recently.
does anyone have any advice for this? anything will help as I am really struggling with trying to make things work and do the right things.
Thank you
@creativePark2132,
we all have good moments and bad moments. It's hard at times to not let your emotions take over, to step out, take a break and talk when both feel more at ease. Let the heart do the talking.
So that is something you both could try, to recognize when you're upset and step out before it takes over. Breathing exercises and mindfulness tends to help me.
It's important to express your needs and expectations. They might not be met but that's not the major point. Major point is being clear in a soft, kind, not threatening or pushing way. To create mutual understanding. To build a mutual foundation and build on it.
If this relationship feels true and genuine to both, you might want to consider relationship therapy. To learn to openly and honestly communicate, without running into discussions.