Insecurities from past relationship is heavily affecting my current realtionship. On the verge of separation
Hello everyone, new here trying to grow and progress with my partner but my past relationship has made trusting and moving forward very difficult. I was cheated on and lied to in my last relationship that lasted 6 years. I'm trying to overcome the walls I have put up by words of affirmation and repeating to myself that my current partner is not my ex. That love and care is the base of this relationship and that our trust is not being made to hide behind. They have done countless things to show me that they are here and only working on us. I'm struggling to comprehend and lower these walls of insecurity.
@Ivorysea233,
ever considered therapy?
That's why I'm here, don't have funds for regular sessions at the moment.
@Ivorysea233
You are doing some good things to remind yourself ......that BF is not same person as your ex ...
i think you know you have put up these walls you can take them down.
i find we sometimes we build up things and we are slow to take them down not because we think we were right in building walls but fear we were not. it may just be me but i do not like to admit when i have held on to things too long or perhaps even misjudged a situation... letting go of a firm stance is hard.
when we have been hurt before we try hard to prevent it never happening again that is understandable and if you have shared that with current BF.