I want to save things...
Recently me and my wife have been having issues. She discovered a few weeks ago that I'd be smoking weed before driving which has been an issue in the past. We'd had fights before and for some stupid reason I continued to do it, and like all things she eventually found out. She's now hurt beyond all belief, to the point where the hurt out weighs the pain and she wants to separate. She doesnt know if she can ever trust me again and I dont honestly blame her. But I want her too. So badly.
I know that I messed up badly, I know that I need to do better in order to fix things. I've quit smoking weed entirely, smashed my bong, and its been a start. But I want to do more.
@warmheartedAvocado9792
That's a great start.
And I admire you taking accountability and not deflecting blame onto your wife!
I hope genuinely she sees the steps you are making to let her see her opinions and needs matter and with time, you'll both get back to a living place, rooting for you 💜
I hope so too. Its just tough. I'm going to continue to prove that I deserve her trust again.
@warmheartedAvocado9792
Fingers crossed for you 💜
@warmheartedAvocado9792
Trust is earned back not just hope she does... perhaps if you want to do more understand what " some stupid reason" was that you did not listen to her to quit smoking and driving.
Until we see why we thought we could still do and not get caught. To do more is to see it from her perspective to feel the disappointment. Not sure if there is a history but sooner or later trust no longer grows in stone.
That's what i want to work towards. I was stupid. Plain and simple. I didnt take it at full value when it happened the first time, and she asked for it to stop, and I know I'm living the full consequences for my actions.
However I want to prove to her that I do understand, and that I do understand the full feeling behind her pain and hurt, but that I'm also willing to change, and not ever hurt her again.