I want to work through our relationship but I’m stuck
I recently found out my boyfriend had been cheating on me for months and he doesn’t even know why. It wasn’t technically physical or emotional, he would wait for me to leave town to have phone sex with someone he used to hook up with or get videos from her. I also noticed our intimacy had taken a tank the past few months and while we have been talking to each other about it, he’s seeing a therapist and has taken the steps to remove that person and anything related from his phone to show me he’s done and wants to fix things with us, I’m struggling because the one person I want to find comfort in is also the person that hurt me. I’m not sure what to do to help myself the days my mind starts feeling lower than usual.
@toughStrawberries432
It is a shock to find something like this out. He says he does not know why but I think with some self reflection he may know. If a person decides to do something either phone or asking for photos or videos he had time to think ..."This is wrong and could have decided NOT to do it" People who cross a line rationalized that crossing in some way.
Maybe he can talk with his therapist and figure out why .... if he wants to fix things he needs to know his why to prevent a similar situation from happening. Honesty is needed to move forward.