Just broke up, in shock but hopeful for my future
I just broke up yesterday with my bf of a couple of years. We were in love but we were doing long distance. It was planned to be a lot of year apart, except if we married and I moved to his country. He is young and not ready. I always found he was not solid but the next step. I knew deep down I was stuck in fulfilling my dreams and in my pain if I stayed. I couldn't stay in the black hole forever. Still it hurts and I am starting a new job monday. I feel guilty to have done that to myself this very moment but I couldn't handle the emotional pain. I feel relieved on some level and I think I started processing the unavoidable breakup months ago already. It is a good decision but that's an added stress and pain to a new transition (city, job, friends). Would love some thoughts 😊
@bubbleSummer9800
I admire how brave you were to make this decision.
It wasn't easy but I feel necessary.
Sometimes we continue to stay in a relationship with the wrong person, because it's better than being alone or being lonely, but in the end, it's not fulfilling for either person and it actually causes more stress and sadness.
I wish you the best with this new job, and you'll have the time to concentrate on yourself now.
You are strong and you made an effectively good decision and I hope when the time is right, someone will sweep you off your feet and there'll be no doubts and you'll be happy because now you gave yourself that chance!
💜💕
@Amanda84
Waouh, it is exactly that. Thank you! I really appreciate your message Amanda.
It took every bit of strenght and courage to do it because I love him and I know he do too so much, but it is was a toxic situation for him and for me. He was breaking down mentally and me too.
Now, that I did. I feel the pain of the break up and a bit the loneliness you talked about but I am well surronded so I rely on that.
Thank you I hope everything will be fine and you are right, it allows me to focus more on my own life and projets.
I love that ending, I appreciate. Take good care of yourself 💘✨️
@bubbleSummer9800
I'm really glad it helped!
Wishing you all the happiness in the world!
You are stronger than you think!
💕💜