Loneliness
So lately I've been feeling lonely... More than ever. I have friends to talk to or to grab coffee sometimes but that's it. I have no close relationships in my life. Yes, I can be fine on my own but sometimes I just don't want to be alone...
@secretPlum2262 Hi! I hope you're doing okay! I am really sorry to hear that you are experiencing this loneliness. 😞 Is there something specific that keeps you from pursuing deeper friendships? It seems like you've got some good friends you could become closer with! I know that sometimes loneliness comes from within ourselves though. We can self-isolate if we are struggling with ourselves and our thoughts. Have you tried reaching out and talking to your friends about how you're feeling? Sometimes sharing our thoughts can allow us to become closer with people because they understand and connect with us through shared experiences and feelings. I want you to know that our Listeners are here anytime for you and we also have some great support groups that you could benefit from! I hope this helps 💛
@fruityPond7887
Hi, thanks for replying. Well, among these few friends, one lives in another city and other is married and has kids, so we all have different lives and priorities so I don't think we can build deeper friendships.
I agree sometimes we isolate ourselves when we don't feel okay. I do it too. I'm currently unemployed, still working on my bachelor's degree, I gained weight, I live with my parents, and I'm single. So overall, I don't feel good about myself and I'm not comfortable hanging out and answering to "what's up, what's going on" cause the truth is nothing's going on in my life.
I did try to build closer friendship and to have more honest communication with one friend but nothing happened.
@secretPlum2262 I understand that. I know that sometimes life can become "stagnant." Please remember that there's nothing wrong with living with your parents! You are working on your degree and that is huge! You're doing a lot and you should be proud of that! It's hard to work while doing your degree, so please don't put too much pressure on yourself. You are doing the best you can and this degree will lead you down so many new doors in life!! You're doing amazing! Are there any people in your class that you could maybe ask to study with or get coffee with? I'm really proud of you and you will get through this! 😊
@secretPlum2262
I hear you. It can be difficult to form those closer connections especially in the phase that you mentioned you aren't feeling things are going too well. It is indeed hard to share our vulnerabilities.
We have a self help guide which I'll share here in case you'd like to have a look. The guide is designed to find ways to cope with feelings of loneliness and learn how to have relationships that are strong, satisfying, and stable.
https://www.7cups.com/how-to-deal-with-loneliness/
I hope it helps!