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User Profile: Devin44
Devin44 February 2nd, 2024

I don't know how to handle this but I feel like I need some perspective before I do anything rash or hurt us both.


So me and my boyfriend have been together for about 3 months now and it has been a hard relationship from the start. Not because of one of us but the distance between us. We live in different countries and our cultures are very different. There is a language barrier between our families and significant others (mainly myself and his family) so meeting them would be hard. The cultural differences are huge even though we haven't spoken on them much because we are still trying to understand each other and bond. He is a very sweet guy who has never done anything to make me question him or his life that he lives there. I have tried to show him the same for me because I want him to know that I am here for this and will try to make it work.(even if my brain says I don't deserve him and he deserves someone closer and better for him).


My real question here is is there a way for cultural differences and language to not get into the way of this? I know we are young but this feels different than a young relationship.

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User Profile: BelovedMe
BelovedMe February 2nd, 2024

@Devin44  Hello,

Firstly, it’s great that you’re reaching out for perspective. It shows your maturity and commitment to making your relationship work.

Long-distance relationships can indeed be challenging, and cultural differences can add another layer of complexity. But remember, every relationship has its unique set of challenges and it’s how we navigate them that truly matters.

Here are a few suggestions:

  1. Communication: Keep the lines of communication open. Discuss your fears, expectations, and the cultural differences that worry you. Honesty and openness can help build a strong foundation.

  2. Learning: Take time to learn about each other’s cultures. This can be an exciting journey where you both grow and understand each other better.

  3. Patience: Be patient with each other. Understanding and adjusting to cultural differences takes time.

  4. Support: Seek support from friends, family, or professionals who have experience with intercultural relationships. They can provide valuable insights and advice.

  5. Self-love: Lastly, remember to love yourself. You’re deserving of love and happiness, and it’s important to believe in your worth.

Remember, love knows no boundaries, and cultural differences can actually enrich your relationship, bringing in a mix of traditions and experiences. It’s all about perspective. Good luck! 🌼

User Profile: Skansly
Skansly February 2nd, 2024

@Devin44

I don't thing language barriers are a difference for now . Thinking about it let's say after 2years ,have you thought of how you both will live , with his family or seperately. Are you both and your families ok with following different cultures . As long as you both can reach a common ground or communicate it through , most problems won't mean anything much.

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User Profile: Devin44
Devin44 OP February 2nd, 2024

Actually the relationship is still so new that we haven't told our families yet

User Profile: Devin44
Devin44 OP February 2nd, 2024

Although he wants me to meet his parents

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User Profile: Skansly
Skansly February 2nd, 2024

@Devin44

It ok , even if you have not told it but thinking about it in advance and believing in yourself that you can solve the problem is enough for the first step you take in order to solve a problem. 

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User Profile: Devin44
Devin44 OP February 2nd, 2024

Thank you I actually really needed that I really like him and possibly even love him and I don't want my issues or concerns to ruin this

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User Profile: goldenVase86
goldenVase86 February 2nd, 2024

I am going now through similar experience but In my experience there are things more important than cultural differences. Moral similarities and understanding are more important.talk a lot, bond and find your common interests don't reach for differences

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User Profile: Devin44
Devin44 OP February 2nd, 2024

Thank you I think that will help

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User Profile: MeowDarkChocolate
MeowDarkChocolate February 3rd, 2024

I believe that love is the only thing which exists beyond space and time, across oceans and time zones, beyond one's imagination, and physical boundaries. It's a connection between souls and souls are not of this world but in it.