Looking for guidance -
I have been married 16 years almost 17 the beginning things were good but now my wife got hurt at work almost 10 years ago all the work comp stuff ended like 5 years ago and my wife struggles with anxiety and depression and Fibromyalgia. My wife has not worked since she got hurt at work in 2016 and she has mentally gotten worse year over year. She does not do much if anything to help her self get better. She missed lots of family and kids stuff and well as not taking care of the house. I work 4-5 jobs and do all I can to help my kids and her when I can with me working so much.
I am a guy that likes adult activities in the bedroom and that does not happen very often and I am very frustrated. I am looking for suggestions.
I truly need her to work but that does not happen. We are financially no doing well we are close to being evicted. Any guidance or advice would be great.
@AtrainOC
I am so sorry to hear that you are struggling.
You both have been through so much.
And it's easy when you have health difficulties , to feel tired, and not yourself, and it would be even harder to feel attractive.
I understand your need for adult fun in the bedroom, a healthy part of a relationship.
When you've been through something as your wife has, you can feel undesirable.
It's important to have a conversation with her, and see how she feels.
You could have some date night's, romantic, nice dinner, build up slowly towards getting the spark back, something that works for both of you 💕💜
See if that suits you.. considering ur wife's situation.. she was a working woman and when it comes to leave ur career bcz of ur health/medical issues it's quite depressing and makes a woman feel she is good for nothing.. *** you need to understand what else she likes if she is a house wife now.. and if she has a hobby like painting sketching cooking baking cake sewing clothes any small hobbies or if she likes playing mind games for couples just to build ur relationship into teamwork is very important.. bcz now you both are not an individual person but you both are one flesh one body so I understand if ur wife is unwell you will feel the same and stress is natural to come.. however keep resisting her insecurities woman has lot of insecurities which we don't speak up and try to divert her mind also don't treat her like patient.. ur wife must be ur first priority she will stay with u till end and remember ur acts and words matters alot.. keep motivating her and mainly she must be so disturbed that she stopped loving her self and now she mystybe thinking she is not capable enough to love u as well.. however a loving warmth huge and a pure kiss in a day will make her day.. it means if ur wife is well everything goes well for a husband it's the ultimate truth.. the best part is you both got eachother and nothing worst gonna happen it's a journey of our lives and there are going to be upset and downs it should not change ur motive or mindsets the way u had when u guys got married.. if u still unsure u can always ping me.. stay strong and ur doing good i appreciate that u showed up here for ur wife it means u love her.. 😊❤️
