Lost
Backstory... I dated this girl in highschool for a year and a half or two and 8 years later we got back together. We've been together 10 months now and about a month ago we started having some struggles. She was severely depressed from an abusive ex but I love her and I was there for her being as supportive as I knew how. She told me her biggest regret was ever leaving me and she was just young and dumb. She would ask my every day, "you still like me?" I would say forever. It was a cute thing we did. About a month ago she got to the point where she didn't want to be depressed anymore and wanted to figure herself out. She pushed me away and didn't want me anywhere around. I figured communication is important so I would ask if everything is okay to the point where she got annoyed which made me more worried which made me keep asking. After about 2 weeks we started to fix things and they were going back to normal then her dad died and she pushed me away even more saying I reminded her of her dead dad because I was with her when she found out. I kept trying to fix us and that pushed her away more. Today I woke up to her packing her stuff saying she needs to get away and have time and space and that she's moving across the state to her friend's house for at least a few weeks. She packed all her stuff from our place and left. In the past with her exes she would take all her stuff and leave and never look back. It feels like she just broke up with me but I don't want to message her to ask cuz she said she needs space and I've already pushed her to the point where she left. Idk if it's over or not, I have the feeling in my gut everything will work out but I don't know if I'm in denial. I'm having an absolutely terrible time.
@courageousCup5244 Sounds like someone who is quite selfish to be honest. one who has no handle on her emotions and does not comprehend what impact her actions will have. Either she doesnt realise it, or she does and does not care. Either one is bad
But there will a point to consider about why things did not work out the two times you are with her, before, and now.
Understand that there is a purpose a person is supposed to fulfill in ones life, if not, nothing on the planet will allow it to happen, and if it has to, nothing in the world can stop it.
Do not force things and let things play its course, in all honestly, if she needs space, respect it. But in no way should you consider this to be your fault, based on what you have shared.
Take care
@courageousCup5244
I respect that you want to give her space as she asked for etc....but since you know she has a pattern of taking all her things and leave . it is concerning.
when in a relationship i feel even if they had past issues and are struggling you need to consider your partner... if she had left a few things like it was only a couple weeks then great but you deserve clarification.
is there a way to contact her be supportive but also seek your closure or whatever... if you say it is concerning since you told me you packed all and left past relationships and now did it to me ... i want to know NOW instead of being strung along...