Marriage breakdown

iv had the hardest week of my life. My husband of ten years told me it was over last week. Iv been living with my parents since. Things have moved very fast and I am obviously in shock and total denial. He has been very ‘nice’ about it for want of a better word and despite the heartbreak and devastation there has been no arguments so to speak. For me it is out of the blue. He has many smaller reasons but the over arching theme being my complete reliance on him for everything. Which I don’t dispute and know has been an issue for a number of years. I have no friends and no social activities. Abstained from all life decisions or management of finances, planning trips, car choices etc. I put this down to my low self confidence and anxiety. He says we have both been unhappy and unhealthy in our relationship for a while. Whilst he says he loves me and cares deeply for me he said there is nothing we are able to do to fix what is broken.

I disagree but that’s irrelevant. Regardless of his reasons he doesn’t want to continue in the marriage regardless of his very obvious hurt and pain also.

I’m only 33 and have been with him since I was 19. He’s 8 yrs my senior.

i don’t know what I’m asking for here, I suppose just writing I down is cathartic?

I feel I have lost my whole life, my home, iv rehomes some pets, my husband, my step daughter. It’s all an awful lot to cope with, im not sleeping or eating and can’t see a way forward alone.

we are meeting tomorrow to discuss a financial separation and establish some short term financial independence. I know I’ll find it extremely tough.