Military Girlfriend Anxiety
My boyfriend is in the Army National Guard and he ships off for Basic and AIT very shortly. I spoke to my therapist about all of my worries, but I still don't really know what to do. He will be gone for a whole 6 months. I won't be able to talk to him from June until August, then he gets his phone back after BCT graduation. Still, he will be several states away. I dont know how to cope with him leaving. I am going to miss him so much. He is going to miss out on our 1 year, Halloween, Thanksgiving, etc.
Maybe subconsciously I worry that he will fall out of love through all of the distance, but I know thats just my anxiety talking. He has told me that he is going to stick it out, we've talked about our futures together, and more. I have no reason to think he would fall out of love with me. My anxiety is just through the roof.
I am going to keep a journal while he is gone and I will give it to him when he gets back. I am also going to send him a bunch of letters.
Im just not sure how to cope with him leaving and knowing that there's a clock ticking down for him to leave for a while. Eventually I will have to deal with this all over again when its my turn to enlist.
@PiercetheLyd
This is difficult of course 💙
But enjoy the time you have left with him, make special memories with him before he leaves.
You could find a new passion to occupy your time with while he's gone.
Ultimately it can be an anxious time, but also your relationship can be stronger, absence makes you appreciate what you have 🩷
@PiercetheLyd
It is completely natural that your anxiety is hitting the roof right now, watching a clock tick down to a six-month separation is an incredibly heavy thing to carry, especially when it means missing major milestones like your one-year anniversary and the holidays. Writing letters and keeping a journal are beautiful, tangible ways to stay connected and pour that anxious energy into something loving, but remember to also pour some of that energy back into yourself. Lean hard into your own routines, your therapist, and your personal goals to help the days move faster, and try to take this one block of time at a time.
