Mom doesn't understand me

Mom just doesn't understand me.    Mom forgot to make orange juice last night so I had to drink a back up sparkling water drink- so I was in a terrible mood and I told Dad to shut up when I was taking orange juce can out of the freezer.  Dad just told me to shut up, it's a whole thing- I'm in a bad mood,  Dad's gets in a bad mood so I tell him to shut up and he tells me to shut up,  then Dad threatens to throw me out of the house and then try's to psychically throws me out of the house.   Then he tells me to "act like a human" and this is from the guy who threw Mom's chair the other month (April).  Then because according to Dad's words "I'm screaming like a 2 year old" he starts to close the kitchen windows -but because we have no A/C in our house it's roasting hot with the windows close even fans can't do enough.   

Mom doesn't seem to understand that I'm a brat and a bully because 1. She and Dad let me became a brat because they didn't want to fight with me when I was child when they should have (Mom says I made myself a brat).  2. I'm a bully because Dad and Luna are bullies-see the thread title "anxiety about past issues with Dad and Luna".   I can't bring up any of the previous incidents of Dad's long list of misbehaviors without Mom accusing me of "polishing" or "holding a grudge"  and she tells me to either "Let it Go",  or "You can either Run from it or learn from it" - I can't run from something if I only have one place to live and I can't learn anything from the incidents  but Dad being a great big bully?     

Mom says I should get past it but   I can't without therapy  and  I can't get therapy it's too expensive or there's the problem the last time I got therapy which was free at that situation-the therapist wanted my parents to be in there with me and I think I was was about 27-28 at the time.   

It also doesn't help I'm not allowed to go into Toronto on my own. I can go to Pickwick but that's just about it.  In the fall I'm going to be seeing about a D&D  group and going 2 days a week to a day program in my town-Mondays and Fridays.  But I need to find out what happens about lunch for those days for the day-program.  As much as I want to do Wed which I think is cooking day - I have prior commitments.