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I'm having a bad day -I'm not getting supper until about 9pm
Relationship Stress / by Disneywoman
Last post
 April 3rd
...See more I had a pretty bad day.   I would normally be making my own supper on Thursday.  But due to a semi-Asian upbring, when Mom tells me that Luna (my sister) volunteers to make supper I basically HAVE to eat what Luna makes.   But between 1)Dad and her getting stuck in very bad traffic on the way home-they didn't get home until 6:21pm,  And 2)because Luna wants to have home-made bread- I'm not going to have my supper until around the time Mom comes home at the earliest (8:45pm).   But I'm getting to the point where even though its "rude" in my parents' and my sister's eyes,  I just rather just grab a TV dinner out of the kitchen freezer and have that for supper instead of waiting until 8:45pm for the blasted supper. 
Parents and disabled needs adult child relationship causing stress on both parties
Relationship Stress / by Disneywoman
Last post
 March 14th
...See more This is going to be a long thread.  I have a good relation ship with my Mom and I have on-and-off again relationship with my Dad-I have a thread elsewhere on the forum about Dad's and Luna, my sister's behaviour) we butt heads alot. First story: I don't like the fact there seem to be two different sets of rules when it comes for people treating a "time like a doctor's appointment".  Last summer on Saturdays I was helping an elderly friend, "Grace" (not actual name) in the mall in Pickwick (if I mention the mall in other posts I'm calling it PTC) or to keep her company when other friends were at one of the friends' home to watch wresting.  Well since her son, "Blake", works at the Supermarket across the street if he wasn't on a baseball league- I would be the one responsible for her getting back to her apartment in Achilles. Due to how the people in charge of the Dunn (not actual name of region)- Region public transit don't actually use the buses- they make the buses next to impossible to run on time on Saturdays (during the weekdays are another story)-so that Grace and I would get out of the mall at about 3:50 and there's should be a 903 (not actual number) Eastbound bus at about 4:05/4:10 but a 903 Eastbound bus never show up until about 4:20/4:25pm.    So then after I get Grace off the bus and up to her apartment-I have to walk back down the hill and across the street to get another bus back to my town of Willow and sometimes if the bus is once again running late I might not be getting home until about 5:30pm or later and my parents get worried about it. But if my parents are some place at Christmas parties, or visiting a friend or visiting my sister they'll either tell me a time frame (like for A Christmas party they might say "they'll be home sometime between 9-10pm")-or they tell me "They'll be home when they'll be home" but even pre-pandemic when they do the former- they sometimes don't come home until 10:30pm, or closer to 11pm or later (but never past midnight).  I do have a theory based on my own experiences for at least the Christmas parties why they don't leave when they plan to leave because of the fact they are *those* kind of people who don't want to be consider "rude" and be the first to leave and wait until someone else leaves first.   But when they don't show up in the time frame they tell me (if they do tell me one) I start getting very worried because I'm afraid they're injured or worse.  Sometimes my worries get so bad -I have to actually call whomever they're with or house they're at.  For a long time I never quiet understood why I was worried but now I think I know why,-we currently don't have a back-up plan for what would happen to me if something "happened" to the parents except for the fact my parents think that Luna "wouldn't mind taking care of me" But whenever they get home late -they just tell me of telling me "I can't treat time frames like a doctor's appointment".  I'm the one whose treating it like a doctor's appointment?!    In my view the parents are the one treating it like a doctor's appointment for coming home later then planned. 
Dad not thrilled about rejoining a Writer's club in Oliver because "bad neighbourhood"
Relationship Stress / by Disneywoman
Last post
 February 18th
...See more I once joined a writer's group in Oliver in August 2019. It's actually called something else but I'm calling it a writer's group for simplicity.    I told Mom I was thinking about at the end of the month (Feb 29th) of going to the Writer's group again.    The other day I mentioned to Dad about my potential plans to go to the Writer's group in Oliver and Dad's not exactly thrilled with the prospective because of the fact the business that the group meets in  is in a 'bad neighbourhood" .     As far as I can tell from (other chatroom) -most of us writers (and the 2 I actually meet in-person) in the group are women and they had been meeting for some time even pre-Covid in the same location. I would think if the  neighbourhood was so bad- they would have tried to find a different location. As Mom said-I'm not going to be standing outside smoking or anything-at the most getting in and out of at least a car.  
Mom doesn't want me to make Taco Pie dish but I'm sick of making food SHE wants me to make=pizza
Relationship Stress / by Disneywoman
Last post
 February 24th
...See more My Mom and I just had a huge argument about what I should make this coming Friday for supper-I haven't made this dish (think Shepard's pie, but without mashed potatoes and with cheese and with Taco seasoning) in about 2-maybe 3 years. Whenever I suggest making this dish Mom suggests I make quesadillas instead. But unlike all my other dishes where I need help of some kind, I need no help with chili or this dish I suggested having this dish for Friday's supper-and Mom suggested we "modify" the recipe so I could have it for myself and she doesn't seem to understand it even though I told her like 10 times, "I BEEN HAVING IT AS A FORM OF microwave CHILLI (but without the beef, the accent cans of tomatoes that the recipe calls for)" she keeps saying "I don't remember you having it!" of course she doesn't! I have it for lunches sometimes when she isn't here like when she's visiting my blasted sister in the Toto. Because having it as kind of microwave chili is the only way without me making it for the family like I WANT TO DO- is my only way to have it. and I'm complexly sick of having it like that and want to do it the RIGHT way and share it with my family. It her excuse is like the same kind of B.S excuse she gave for several years of "being sick of Taco Salad" and at least last summer I got to make that occasionally.. Her excuse being that "there's either to much sauce or too much cheese" for the dish and yet because of me loving cheese too much-is that the SAME amount of cheese would be on a Quesadillas or on a *Bacon* Pizza I make with her help! It seems just except for last week-2-3 weeks ago have been 2 dishes-one new to both Mom and I- a "Meatball and onion gravy" dish and the other one was new to me- Stuffed Peppers. But every other week most fall/winter/spring months- all I seem to be making is Pizza, pizza, pizza,- I'm sick of having pizza, every other week- even though we haven't had it in like 3-4 weeks by last Friday. If I get to make what SHE wants me to make most of the time- why can't I for once in awhile make a dish I want to make instead of making Pizzas every other week?! The ONLY thing I would need help with -this particular dish would be Mom getting the *bacon* lid from out of the kitchen cupboard but the rest of it I can do on my blasted own-and that's rare for me to to do that. Not to mention this dish doesn't need to be put into the oven unlike Pizza, or Quesadillas-and as long as we're not having a salad, and I have the chips already, the dish after I cook the meat and veggies and put the shredded cheese on and the lid on the pan-it takes 5mins for the cheese to melt. (I also just want to find a bacon excuse for tortilla chips we have which we barley use-we're only using them for either this dish, or the Taco Salad one and without me making either-they're going to waste) or maybe I'm sick of leftovers. Update: She even suggested looking in Harry Potter cookbook for some meals I want to make-but the ONLY thing I want to make is either this dish or chilli so she can be able to rest on the couch for most of the supper-making process
Dad moving the newspaper =paranoid because of chilli fries dish would spill=angry me
Relationship Stress / by Disneywoman
Last post
 February 17th
...See more On Monday,  I went to get food from Wendy's -this week was the best week for me to do it because I'm busy for rest of the month-Pancake supper next Tuesday  and Mom has to sing in the choir on Ash Wednesday so that means an early supper,  and the following week on Wednesday- Mom and I are going to be seeing the Aladdin the musical play in Toto,  and the following week-i'm helping "G" get to and from her hairdresser. I really like to be able to have newspaper section I read right next to my placement so i can read it so occasionally my food get on it-especially on Thursday morning when I have oatmeal or cereal and they get dropped onto the paper when I'm eating & reading. I came home from getting food,  put two things (portabella mushroom burger and baked potato) into the fridge to turn into 2 meals and then unload the lunch for that day- Dave's Single Cheese burger and Chili fries.   And with the few sections I was in the kitchen again putting the 2nd bag (they gave me 2 bags with the 2 meals)-into the recycling and getting a plate for me to put the burger on- and in the few mins  Dad who was for some reason having his breakfast at almost noon,  and he had been up since shortly before 10:45 (because I went downstairs at the time to leave)-had moved the section of the newspaper I was going to read way to far out of my way and that ticked me off really- because I need to have it close to me. So when I moved it back to where I wanted and Dad kept moving it and telling me to open up the *bacon* container  that had the chill fries in it-because he was so  *bacon* parnoaid that the *bacon* container will spill onto the *bacon* newspaper. So Dad and I started an entire fight about it (We made up later like we always do).  For some reason Mom didn't hear us and yet she normally hear us when we have this kind of  a fight. 
Dad doesn't buy cheeses and Mom asked a nonsense question
Relationship Stress / by Disneywoman
Last post
 February 5th
...See more My Dad's one of those people who would "never buy anything even for himself"  in other words he's a cheap stake.  Due to my country/province's dairy products being expensive  Mom or i have to buy cheese bricks/blocks when they go mildly on sale.  Because there's no point in ever asking Dad to buy cheese anymore for over 2 years.    I'm going to be on my last block of "spicy cheese" (ie: Monterey jack, and Mexican Festival) in the next couple of days (no more in the Fridge only Mom's bricks/blocks.  So when Dad and I happened to end up at the most local grocery store ("Fresh") in our town,  I wanted to check to see if the spicy cheese was on sale (it was).      I got home after doing the grocery shopping with the local grocery store (not a planned part of the shopping today) and I told Mom about the Fresh store having the cheese on sale.  She asked me if I brought any.  I reminded her I was with Dad, and when I'm w/ him,  he wouldn't let me buy such stuff vs if I was by myself like if I had stopped in there on my way home from work yesterday I could have brought some. Later  before  I had my fruit and Mom has her lunch-  I asked Dad a hypothetical question of "If I was with him and cheese blocks were on sale at "Fresh" would I be able to buy them?"  And we had a huge fight about it the same fight which is why I didn't bother to bring it to his **** attention at "Fresh" in the first place.   Like he doubts it was actually even "on sale" despite what a sign says because sometimes the signs can be giant rip-offs.   Mom then asked me why i had bothered asking Dad then (about the cheese blocks when Mom can get them on Weekend-probably Sunday) - I just wanted to know for future reference.     And also why the *** did Mom ask me if I brought any when she knew I was with Dad in the first place?!!
merry goose chase around writing reddits because my story has "fantasy elements"
Relationship Stress / by Disneywoman
Last post
 February 1st
...See more I'm trying to write a s SimLit.  Normally when I have questions I would ask on a forum for writers but due to the forum being "off" due to moderator issues in Nov i can't currently use that format to ask other writers questions so I have to ask elsewhere  like on writing reddits.  My problem is if I included detials which aren't important to my question (ie mentioning fantasy elements),  I get send on a "merry goose chase" to reddits, I don't really want to have to go to after already asking the question 3 times in 2 different reddits.    Like the Fantsay elements aren't the main part of the question but because I have them in my story... they don't think my question which has nothing to do with the fanstay elements isn't research.   To me my question IS research and I shouldn't have to go to either r/Fantsaywriting or r/Worldbuilding reddit since the world buidling is long been done back in 2016 when I first attempted this SimLit. 
Dad mad at me making an 'unreasonable" assumption about my OJ cup being in the fridge w/ OJ again @ lunch
Relationship Stress / by Disneywoman
Last post
 January 28th
...See more Background: As long as I can remember I have always used a vintage Tupperware cup for whatever the first-meal-of-the-day I have (aka Thursdays breakfast rest of the week  lunch).  I have always used the Yellow cups for my OJ and up until sometime recently   Mom used the Orange Tupperware cup-  but once it started going rotten- she stopped using it.  What she  been using recently  instead is using some other kind of cups.    After her small experience with being sick with Covid in 2022- she now only drinks half a cup of OJ.    I'm not sure if I like other people drinking from my cups or not -I know I don't like people using "my"  lunch plate except for Mom.   And also Dad has a habbit of not paying attention to ANYTHING in the house that doesn't concern him (like the kind of OJ cups people use,  or who isn't here ,etc).  Story: Since Thursday is shopping day so I get up on Thursdays and go downstairs to have breakfast- either cereal or Oatmeal +toast with PB +orange juice and Coffee everything Dad had already prepared or set up before I get downstairs or in the process of getting it ready.    Now if we skip forward to lunch on Thursday-I went to get my lunch ready and I found that my Orange Juice  cup was once again in the Fridge filled to the brim with OJ.  So to me, if someone has filled my cup to the brim again  with something like Orange Juice,  especially around lunch time  my reasonable assumption is to assume, that I'm suppose to drink a 2nd cup  of OJ for lunch.   A couple of hours later I'm emptying the dishwasher talking to Mom and I mentioned about the 2nd drink of OJ and Dad got mad saying "You drank that? It was suppose to be for Mom!"   And I'm like "um it was in MY OJ cup?!"   and also "Mom hasn't had a full cup for over an entire year now!"    if he wanted it to be for Mom put it in  HER Orange juice cup not MINE!   He's acting like I meant the unreasonable assumption of drinking OJ again when it was in MY Orange Juice cup- but since that's just the fact it was MY cup he put OJ in again and put it in the fridge.    
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