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Hate Dad having a fit about sugar

Relationship Stress / by Disneywoman

August 31st

...See more Background: Dad's has always been Health nut. This has caused some problems with us. Scenario 1: Back in 2022 I brought ice tea for me to drink because I was a bit tired of of just having the sparking water as my lunch drink (back before I had sparking water for my year round drinks). I asked Dad to open it. Instead of opening it, he took a very long time looking at the nutrional label and I was hangry and I asked Dad to hurry up and just open it. He didn't open it and instead threw the bottle across the couch and told me to "Act like an adult". I had to open it on my own-and the entire reason why I asked him was because I had already tried to open it on my own and it didn't work the first time for me. Scenario 2: Before Covid, Dad would buy ice cream bars. I could have one for my snack. But one measly bar+ pop isn't really enough of snack when I could have pudding + Pop and ice cream with choc sauce, choc chips (or choc pieces of whatever I have in my snack piles) and sprinkles + pop. My mom and I made a deal, I can have that (ice cream bar) + a small bowl of ice cream+ pop. One night Dad confronted me and said I can "have one or the other not both". something about "too many calories". Which I thought was unfair because I don't see ice cream bar+ pop as being enough to fill me up since I don't get to have a lot of treats outside of holidays, post birthdays, when I buy myself l Mcflurry, Blizzard's, or a milkshake at a fast food place or Mom and I have been in Toronto and get Timbits. or Ice cream in Bard's town, my province. Otherwise my snack night is once a week on Fridays. _____________________ So sometimes I have bathroom problems and in order for me to relax I use candy (life savers or humbugs). Story: I needed to go to the bathroom and before I went in I asked mom if the store has them in (Bard's town), that if we could get 2 bags assorted Humbugs for me to use for the upstairs and downstairs bathroom. As I was going into the bathroom - I then heard her answer Dad's question, and its was something about "she uses it to relax in the bathroom". Turns out the question Dad asked "Why is she chewing on something full of sugar?" Mom had to tell him off and say I doesn't use it that much. ___________ He should mind his own beeswax

Mom wants me to cry Caribbean punch drink for a "lunch drink"

Relationship Stress / by Disneywoman

August 30th

...See more Background: So during the school year I have a once a week morning volunteer job. So it means I drink Orange juice for breakfast. Its also means I don't have any lunch drinks. I used to have "sparking water" for my lunch drinks but now "Sparking water" is a basically 5 days a week drink. So what I had done this past year for drinks is Pop 1 week, choc milk another week, pop the week after that, and then the following weeks it would be apple juice, pop, apple juice, pop. Then same as first time back and forth maybe with the occasional small milkshake to have something different. Non- lunch drinks-I used to drink an entire Starbucks Frappe bottles. But I know only like use 1/3 or something of the frappes and its lasts 3 days. The only other options at stores are either juice boxes (bunch of garbage), energy drinks (Monster, Red bull), or more pop/Gatorade. I see choc milk as a healthier alterative to pop/ice tea. Story: So Mom wanted to know what size the bottle of choc milk I buy. I couldn't explain the size so Mom finally looked at the bottles today in the grocery store. She doesn't like how much protein I'm getting or the price is too high. Can't remember which thing she didn't like. She's suggested I buy like the a big carton of choc milk but I'm not drinking it every week only like 2-to four or is it two to six weeks. She's suggested buying a smaller bottle of choc milk- but the only smaller bottles of choc milk either a)are in cardboard trays which means they will spoil faster and 2. it's milkshakes. bottles. Mom then suggested I try Caribbean punch. The only thing remotely Caribbean the family has ever had is Jamaican Patties that's it. I'm afraid I wouldn't like Caribbean punch. Why can't I just buy something I know i will like and not have to buy something I might not like? ____________________________________________________________________ This and Dad's behaviour (in a following post) is why I hide both the pop/apple juice/choc milk bottles from them in the *bacon* first place

Ticked off at having Pizza for supper last night after I tried to avoid pizza Friday night

Relationship Stress / by Disneywoman

August 30th

...See more I'm really ticked off. I tried not to make Pizza on Friday night because Thursday Sept 3rd, that Mom and I are eating at Boston Pizza in Toronto after coming back from Stratford, Ontario. We ended up having pizza last night Dad picked up. Beside the above, I also didn't like the fact we had pizza last night for two other reasons: One reason is that Dad never eats leftover pizzas so it's means Mom and I have to eat the leftovers for lunch today and tomorrow and maybe breakfast on Tuesday morning. Which means my cheese Mom cut up to last the next couple of days is going to go moldy. 2. Dad almost never buys "sides"- aka garlic sticks, bread, whatever. He has only done that once when it was Mozzarella bites or balls the other month. Which means we're stuck with "home sides" ie sides we have at home like chips, and when we already had different chips the previous night. It's not as exciting as it would be if Dad had brought Pizza like on Monday or Tuesday night (last Wed was mom's birthday). ___________________________________________________________________ In Stratford, there's a Domino Pizza on the main road in town. Mom and I haven't had Pizza from that sit-down Domino Pizza place since pre-Covid. (The Domino's in our town isn't sit down). Our first two plays take place in what's known as the Festival theatre, an indoor replica of London's Globe theatre. There's a lack of restaurants in the area that this theatre is. So people have to either eat at the cafe there or walk to Domino's or Popeye's on main street to eat. The other year must have been 2022 since it was the same year Dad's friend died. Instead of doing one trip to see four plays and stay over night- Mom and I did one day trip a month between June and Sept. One day, we got off at the Festival theatre and had lunch there but Mom only brought sandwiches and nothing else including like anything for me to drink (and she knows how much I hate warm water ) I don't find the cafe food at the theatre very filling when the only choices are salad and sandwiches nothing else. Vs. You get Pizza, cheesy bread+ a drink at Domino's. Heck even Popeye's is a better option then just theatre cafe food. Shrimp or chicken sandwich or a wrap + fries+ a drink and biscuit. I know I don't want to mess up my plans for Taco Bell after not going in August but I can make an exception and have too fast food out like I did this month- Harvey's (Fast food Canadian-only chain) and Burger King.

Parents don't listen when I'm in pain. Even when I'm clearly telling them I am.

Relationship Stress / by Disneywoman

August 29th

...See more I really want to bang my head. So I have a high pain tolerance level. Mom says when I'm in pain I should tell them more clearly. But I told them like 3 different times I did tell them clearly and they still dismissed me. Sometime around 2017, I had a terrible pain in my mouth. It's was so bad that it was bitting my cheek. Since Dad was away and Mom was going to work, after I got back from my own work and after having lunch. I had to call denist myself by calling it after searching for it. And I walked up there and turned out I had wisdom teeth jutting into my jaw. In Feb 2020, I was in a rush to get to my volunteer work and I fall outside of a former neighbour's house at the top of the hill. I managed to walk to the church. But I asked Dad to pick me up after I dropped someone at the library. I complained for weeks afterwards that my leg was in pain but they didn't listen to me. So i think my leg/knee is still messed up because of that because people from the day program said that my leg looked "bad" about a week, or two weeks before everything shut down. Then last year with the gall bladder problem.. I was in pain in the side in both May and June. i could do okay in May walking around the pool several times. But when I tried to walk around in June I could barley walk around the pool once I was in so much pain. I did tell my parents but they didn't listen. When I had the conversation with Mom about my pain and when we talked about the gall bladder incident, Mom said "I should have said I could barley walk around once" I did tell them, and they still dismissed it.

Disabled Advocy sinnce adulthood

Disability Support / by Disneywoman

August 28th

...See more So I'm wondering ever since I became an adult. If I have always been an disability advocate even if I didn't know it at the time. I had to contact the local bus company a ton of times. Two of them had was during college. At least twice was during Day-program. One year during my too many years of college, that there was a new stop at the one corner and coming home after a couple of times of getting off there- a driver didn't let me off there and said "they never stop there". I emailed the bus company about that problem. Another time I emailed them to complain about the walk between that bus stop and the other bus stop I need were too far apart. (what I didn't tell them in the email is: The only guarantee way I would have been able to catch the last bus of the home-ward based bus would be if the driver of the bus opened the doors for me at the the side of the sidewalk. Which at least one bus driver did.) Two times I did it during the day-program. So FYI because of the College-bound bus I got a fear of back doors this is important. So I developed a habit of going out the front of buses. This is important for one of the emails I sent. One time the AD for stops was turned off or wasn't working. A friend at the program had a blind friend who occasionally came to the program. This was in my pre-Molly watching days so I didn't know how to interact with a blind person at the time. So I was on the bus going to the program, and the AD was not functioning and at some point the blind friend asked if we're at (street before the stop for the program) and I spoke up and said "No we're not. I can tell you when its time to get off". As soon as I got to the program and used their computers (I was obsessed with their computers after they got them in 2015?) I wrote the bus company an email about how I had to assit a blind friend off the bus because of the AD not working. The other time, I was forced to go out the back door, because I couldn't go through the front door because there were 3 strollers at the front of the bus. One stroller had been there first and 2nd of 2 more strollers blocked the pathway to the bus. At some other time, I can't remember where I was going but it was someplace new at least for me and I was solo on the bus. So I asked the driver when to press the button or bull the cord and the driver was rude "You will know when we get there" but how was i suppose to know when I never been there before?. I emailed sometime after that. I emailed them about the buses being late past the Pickwick Mall in Toronto when there should have been a bus at 4:05pm and there isn't a bus until 5:25pm. The 2nd bus is on time. The 2nd to last time was March 2024, when I emailed them about lack of buses on weekends from the regional train station. They told me about the "on demand" app, but they also told me you need to book it in advance. That would have been useless for two out-of-town women who wanted a bus, who didn't know about it, and one woman's phone was dead, even if she had known about it. I wrote an whole accessibility email to them in June to tell them my concerns because I had to miss their accessibility panels in April due to other commitments. It's not just the bus, I had to write to Go transit once. I should have done it twice. But I can't fix the past. I just will make sure If I see an elevator out of order at a train station again email company right away But the one time when I actually did someone was this year (2026). The other Month Mom and I went into Toronto. But we found out that the elevator was too slow to close it's doors so we decided that going downstairs was faster method for us. When we got back to town we're told by staff the that elevator was working. But when we tried it it was the same as it was that morning.

disappointed that I don't get Friday off from Supper

Relationship Stress / by Disneywoman

August 27th

...See more I'm disappointed that I don't get Friday off from making supper. I haven't had a day off making supper since the end of July. Story: We're having Chinese food today because it's my Mom's birthday. We order Chinese food on the birthday/ non Turkey holidays and have the leftovers another day. In the past if someone's birthday or the hoilday was any other day then Friday, we would have the leftovers on Friday- which means I get a day off cooking. I only had 2 Fridays off this summer from cooking supper both because of Disabled summer camp. One time i was too full to eat. The other time Mom made supper which I ate. Mom and I are going to be in Bard's town from Sept 1st to Sept 3rd. So Mom's wants to have Chinese food on Sunday. I can't remember the last time I had the day off prior to Disabled Summer camp. Heck if Luna even came to visit (which she hasn't since Christmas) I could get Fridays off. But I want to have one Friday in the pool where I can stay in longer then I normally do on Fridays when I cook without having to prepare the veggies before hand. Especially when I don't have anyone else to help put my swim gear out on the clothesline. Which means supper takes even longer. Last week It's took twice as long to make supper because I was in the middle of making supper when I had to take the swim gear out to the clothesline because of Luna's clothes hogging the space on the clothesline. Mom thinks I will have the "day off" to cook on Sept 11th, but I would still have to cook for myself that night and the next night. So doesn't count as having a day off from supper. We just had Harvey's Monday August 17th . Dad wouldn't allow me to get a hot dog again if we did Harvey's again on that day. Not that I would want a hot dog when I can get one on Sunday Sept 13th instead at church. It's just I need a break and even before DSC I haven't had any break in a very long time. I wouldn't mind not cooking for one day. I have the other 11 months of the year to cook. But I don't have many months to swim in the backyard pool. I can't be upset infront of Mom today because it's her birthday. So I have to be upset up here instead.

Disabled adult having hard time finding social groups Mom turns down options I like

Relationship Stress / by Disneywoman

August 24th

...See more I'm kind of upset I was looking forward to being busy at least three times a week. Mom looked at my email from Mariam from PH (Participation House) and just for one day a week it's about $120 for three months or $1440 in total Mum kind of half-turned down, or is "keeping in reserve" -the Pickwick program which she didn't like because she "thinks I wouldn't fit in" and also she doesn't like the fact it's privately run. She said we don't know what it does but I told her back in Dec what it does- it goes to Toronto Zoo, or a Reptilia House. Also its "difficult to get too" It's behind the stupid mall somewhere. It would cost in total about $289.39 $90 for every day and even have to pay for the days I can't go. Plus $128.39 for Toronto Zoo + about $80 for Reptilia Zoo membership New Winds, the sister program to my old day program New Leaf in its current location in town, it's like being at a family reunion its was elbow-to-elbow in a basement and when I was there in Jan 2024 or 2025, I was near the door and it was freezing there despite no snow or ice on the sidewalks. Mom suggested going back to the accessible gym. But I hate exercising alone and I don't socialize at the gym because at the time I went to the gym (from about 2014-2018) my parents made me walk both and forth 32 min walk both ways (on Tuesdays and Fridays) and longer on Weds from the church. The only people I saw at the gym were seniors-like a woman from my now former bowling league or mums with children. Not people around my age (36+). Let's not even getting into the locker scenario- the shoe cubbies are for 4-5 years old not for 18+ Or the lockers in general in the woman's room for that matter. It's only enough for people whom drive or are driven to the gym not for people outside the box. Also i don't want to walk to the gym because both streets I could walk to get to the gym, have "arms" on the sidewalk so arms on sidewalk+snow/ice/snow=dangerous. I also don't want to have another scene even w/ Mom at home of Dad bullying me on the scale if I choose not to go because it's suppose to snow. Even if I did get the bus to get to the gym, I still would need to have the boots+snowpants+backpack+headband+scarf+streetclothes into the small lockers Mom looked at the gym's programs and it was for either elementary school children 7+ (so basically my friend Carly's oldest daughter) or for High school students. Mum even emailed the gym to ask if they have any programs for adults that can do fitness/socialize. I want to do something outside of church stuff (my volunteer job on Wed during the school year and my future volunteer job of the autism respite stuff, not counting the ) and everything I want to do is "too expensive" (PH) for me to do more then once a week or "I wouldn't fit in" the Pickwick program. She wants me to have a life but she wouldn't allow me to have a life I want. Especially with me going to work once a week (Wed) after Labour day and going to D&D nights on Thursdays. I want to be busy on like Mondays or something, Just to do something else beside be stuck at home with my parents which I been stuck with since March 13 of 2020. My only breaks from Dad are 1. DSC and that for me only happened 2 years now (Even if I did do two camps this year). 2. Mom and I in Toronto, and 3.Mom and I are in Bard's town, Ontario.

Fast food lunch scrapped- and tired for cheese sandwiches

Relationship Stress / by Disneywoman

August 20th

...See more So I'm suppose to be able ot go once a month to a restaurant either by walking or Dad taking me. I was getting tired of cheese sandwiches and I wanted to have one lunch out this month, since not having a lunch out since July with Disabled Summer camp. My plan was to go to to Taco Bell tomorrow, but due to Mom's issues with printing the tickets to Bard's town, and being "panicky" we're ended up getting a different kind of fast-food for supper tonight, and I'm delaying Taco Bell for a month because I don't want to have Pepsi -3 times in over a month (DQ, Canadian fast food, and Taco Bell) and going to BK next week instead. But that's leads to the other problem because I was planning to go to Taco Bell tomorrow I have 0 Plan B for lunches because I'm tired of cheese sandwiches, I'm not interested in Crackers and cheese, I don't really want to have PB and anything, and it's not the correct weather for Ramyeon or canned soup, (even if I wanted canned soup I would need eat 1/2 of it and save the rest for another day). We don't have any cottage cheese or fresh bruschetta which might entice me. So it's seem I'm going to be stuck another week of eating microwave cheese sandwiches which I am sick of already. I can't talk to Mom because she will suggest I have "crackers and cheese" The best alterative I can come up with is 1/2 a bagel and cheese and that's barley enough food when I'm such a foodie.

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