My husband flew to Japan to meet a woman
Hi all
Need some advice. What I'm about to share may sound far fetched but here I go. I have been married to my husband for 27 years, we have 4 children youngest is 9. My husband has very bad temper and narcissistic tendencies. He was very verbally abusive toward me and our children for years. In November last year, he assaulted 2 of my children in our home. He was arrested and released on bail. In December 2025 I found out by accident that he had been chatting on an Asian Dating app and spent over $1600 from our account. He then started to chat to a woman on whats app where he paid her in apple gift cards for her virtual service. I believe they agreed to meet as passport info was exchanged. The next thing I know he is in Japan. Before he left he had bought new clothes and let's say bedroom toys. I just don't know how to feel about it, I cannot cry, my head cannot focus on why he would do such a drastic move like this. He is 58 soon, and I am struggling to understand his mind set.
Thanks for reading.
@selfconfidentBlueberry1796
I'm so sorry you have been struggling so much.
You didn't deserve verbal or physical abuse and neither did your children.
He didn't consider youse when talking to her, giving her money, going over there and being intimate.
You deserve better.
The reality is, he is her problem now, and she'll see what he's like when the shine and the mask comes off and the money runs out.
You can be happy without him 💚
Thank you for your kind words.
@selfconfidentBlueberry1796
It is extremely sad to hear the challenges you have had to endure. Cruelty and selfishness are an anathema, and it is not fair that the burdens of their results often fall upon those who are least responsible for them.
When we cannot change the course of that which brings us sadness, perhaps it behooves us to look towards alternate paths that lead back to a place of happiness.
If only best wishes and earnest will to bring comfort could wash away all that causes pain in one magical sweep...for then I am sure many here would gladly use that good-vibe broom.
Regardless of what is and what might be, you deserve to be treated decently. Your worth is not diminished by the unkind acts of others.
Thank you I had my first therapy session today. Baby steps. Thank you for your kind words
And You should focus on yourself and your children now... ❤️ I can understand your pain .. let's move on 💪