My husband is a narcissist
Everyday I get called stupid and dumb and everything that's wrong is all because of me.
I cannot tell anyone be he threatens to leave and we have a 9 year old son that i don't want to grow up without a dad but im slowly slowly losing myself, lets say that i do things that makes me look weak or i do things that are not right, that doesn't give him the right , his other half, to call me names. we're supposed to help each other not bring each other down.
im so lost, i dont know what to do, whenever i try talking to him about it, he keeps shouting and i only end up getting more confused and hurt.
i need someone to talk to, im losing my mind
@LonelyWife888
You are not stupid or dumb!
You matter.
You deserve love, respect and to feel at peace in your own home.
I know you don't wish for your son to not have his father around, you also don't want your son mirroring his father's actions and treating his future wife like this. I cannot tell you what to do, but your husband needs to be of a clear understanding that he is wrong and that this needs to stop, sending you my best wishes 💜💕
thank you so much, ive been trying to let him know but it only ends up with him saying its ally fault and i have been stupid since day 1, which was 18 years ago. but i want to thank you for your kind words, i find peace in strangers instead of at home with my family
@LonelyWife888 I can't imagine how confused and hurt you must be and that is totally valid. We have many listeners here for you if you need someone to talk to. Sending lots of love.
thank you sooo much i feel so alone, i needed your message thank you
@LonelyWife888
How are you feeling this week?
Hi was called a Pyscho *** for calling him 4 times on the phone but i think im good, its like me breathing is enough to tick him off. i feel so sad but im trying to do everything i can to not make him upset, is this my life forever? he says i demand too much, i just want thr bare minimum
@LonelyWife888
I'm glad it has not been a horrible week. I believe you are doing everything you can to not make your husband upset. And, no, I don’t believe this live is yours forever. Try not to listen to your husband when he tells things that aren’t true about you.
Hey, I understand, but would you like to understand why your husband is doing so? Message me if you’d like to talk.
Are there any shelters in your area, just in case?
It's okay
I'm here you can talk to me
It's okay
I'm here you can talk to me
You’re not crazy — you’re just stuck dancing in a storm with someone who thinks thunder is your fault.
A marriage isn’t a courtroom where one is always the accused.
Even GPS says, “recalculating” when the route gets toxic. Maybe it’s time you do too.
You’re not losing your mind...you’re just trying to hold on to yourself in a house where love forgot how to knock.
We hear you. Keep talking. Feel free to connect 💛
My sister is actually getting divorced from her husband of 12 years. He is also a narcissist and she spent the last 10 years being so miserable. She also has an 11 year old, but they separated a few years ago just didn't get the divorce until now.
One thing she always says is she had to learn that IT WAS NEVER HER.. IT WAS ALWAYS HIM.. meaning nothing she could do would make him happy he was just miserable and would maybe always be. She had to figure that out, it's him he won't be happy no matter what.
You are enough, you don't deserve to be treated that way and for all the pain I can see in her when she talks about I can only imagine what your feeling and going through. I know you don't want to ruin things for your kid but at the same time you don't want him to grow up thinking the way his dad treats you is normal. I can't tell you what to do, I have a daughter and when I left my ex even though I had no idea if I would make it or be able to put food on our table it was the best choice I ever made for me and her. I have never regretted it.
I hope things get better, but just don't lose your self remind yourself that it's him. It's NOT you and never will be!
Wish you the best! 💙