Narcissistic Mom
Hi, I just started to use this app to see if it could help me with my stress with my highly narcissistic Mom. I am not sure if she is just narcissistic naturally or she is sort of also under somekind of mental issue. The episodes like come and go like monthly or even weekly, like as if seasonal. As asian family, mental health still quite a taboo things in my family and suggesting her to see a psychiatrist wont be helpful, more of escalation.
I just need to know that I am not alone.. I have my own family and currently receiving help from my Mom to look after children (her grandchildren basically) as me and my husband are working. I have two children with the older one attending childcare from 8AM-5PM. My Mom will suddenly being super hypersensitive towards any words that came out of our mouth and keep looking for a chance for arguments, when we do not entertain her, she’ll keep trying and threatening to go back our hometown. If we entertain her on the other hand, she’ll start bringing up all the past stories about how we are ungrateful of her sacrifices.
we never force her to stay or do anything, she is on her free will to go out and even our entire household is under her control.
i am just so tired.. and keep walking on the eggshells everytime I am talking to her as it might potentially become ammunition for her to attack in the future. In the end, she will play a victim card and as if we have done something deserving death to her..
@boolunique
So she is living with you and caring for the kids while you both work... this often is hard on families as she will or has overtook your home... this creates issues even if we can stay silent on them...
you say mental health issues are taboo what about medical issue? perhaps the come and go mood swings or anger are a chemical imbalance in her body. There are many theories on as the body ages it does work the same and i recently read sometimes an imbalance could cause anger like issues.
As a parent imagine yourself down the road in her shoes..would this be a satisfying life for you? ..
does she have any outside interests or hobbies that she can do outside of your home and family? even for short time...some may develop short fuse when they are frustrated in their day to day same thing situation.