Old and exhausted
42 almost 43, after 3 relationships (almost non existence because they were all based on lies and deceit) i feel so frustated. they said focus on your future. love and focus on yourself. in the end you will attract people. did that. nothing happens. blamed as selfish and choosy. future? what future when you are over 40. so i work work work to forget everything. exhausted. not satisfied. why is it so hard for me? why is it so easy for other people?
@LoveIsAQuestion Hi My name is Leon and I glad to meet you here . I know you are frustrated after ended the relationship and have worked all day like a dog.
@LoveIsAQuestion How many people have you approached or asked out on a date in the last 3 months?
@LoveIsAQuestion
it is a mystery but they best way to find answers is to dig deep about what is going on.... previous relationships you said were based on lies and deceit .... what kind of deceit or lies happened? they were not whom the presented themselves to be? just not compatible?
what or who are you looking for? why do you think it is easy for others ? .... finding and keeping a relationship is hard for almost everyone. i look around and many i see alone....... sometimes are expecting a person to fit into every category on a list and IMO not is not realistic.
how long to did you give the self focus and growth to see if it worked so many read things like that and think in a very short time frame it just happens......
I can tell you my relationships were often not meet cute / and romantic comedy stuff .... the person i have spent many years with my first impression was they is an a- hole and only after time and getting to know the person underneath did they grew on me.... relationships are about connection and sometimes the person is not what you expect ....