Please help..
Hello,
I'm new to this app and I'm going through a very difficult time. I feel incredibly lonely and lost.
For years, I felt excluded by my friends. After a car accident, when I called them scared and needing help, none of them came, even though they were only minutes away. The only person I had left was my boyfriend.
A year later, I discovered he had been emotionally involved with another girl. I forgave him because he promised to change, but now I live far from home with him, and during arguments he calls me useless, a burden, and says I ruined his life. Later, he says he didn't mean it. He can also become aggressive, to the point that there have been times when he pushed me and I fell, leaving my arms covered in bruises.
What hurts the most is how I feel about myself. I feel worthless, never good enough, and like people always end up hurting me. I don't have friends, I can't afford therapy, and I don't feel able to talk to my family.
I just need someone to listen. Thank you.
@goldenClementine6718
I am sorry you are going thru these things...friends who do not show up when needed if possible are NOT friends.
Relationships also can be stressful especially living together. Tell him how insults even if apology comes later are not constructive. learning to communicate with a partner is a must... I know many who have many years together but still not able to communicate effectively.
Communication is one thing most of us have but seem to not use. Self-worth is a must and regardless of what someone says in anger of in a bad moment you choose to believe them and internalize or realize they are lashing out and know your self-worth.
Why are you unable to talk with family worried they will judge you?
or the dreaded I told you so? I found when I opened up, I found it helpful and sometimes it was not all supportive but challenging my position. Facing our thoughts helps us grow and improve. too many want others only to sympathize....... but that is not always what we need.
@goldenClementine6718
It's a sad, but common story, ma'am. Try to tell about your experiences here on 7cups, you may obtain some elementary help.
I’m so sorry you are going through this. I know the feeling I am currently in a lonely spot myself! Are there things you enjoy doing? Sometimes that helps me.
@goldwnClementine6718 I'm so sorry you are going through this. I'm going through some hard times too, my bf lives in another country, we are in ldr relationship but idk anymore he haven't been texting me so for 5 days now, but his phone have internet connection, every message keeps delivering but not reply 😞 I feel so lonely and I can't tell my family about this. I have no friends here, all I do is isolate myself in the room and cry and hope he'll reply but atp I think I'm gonna give up.
@goldwnClementine6718 I'm so sorry you are going through this. I'm going through some hard times too, my bf lives in another country, we are in ldr relationship but idk anymore he haven't been texting me so for 5 days now, but his phone have internet connection, every message keeps delivering but not reply 😞 I feel so lonely and I can't tell my family about this. I have no friends here, all I do is isolate myself in the room and cry and hope he'll reply but atp I think I'm gonna give up.
Hey I m there to listen
@goldenClementine6718 We are here to listen to you
